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My mother has been fighting breast cancer since Christmas. Unfortunately, we have been given the worst news, that it is terminal and she is now on a timeline.
I keep getting asked ‘how am I going’. I don’t know how I am feeling, to be honest. It seems surreal, almost like it is not going to happen. The only time I truly get upset is when I think about my daughter. About how my mum won’t get to see her grand daughter grow up. And how my daughter won’t have her grandma growing up. I have so many memories of staying with my grandparents and being spoilt. It literally hurts my heart to think my daughter won’t have those memories.
My husband tells me she has lots of aunties and uncles that will fill the hole, but deep down I know that it is just not the same.


Posted by teacup83, 28th April 2014


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  • I grew up without grandparents, they were never around, I never knew them, so I didn’t miss them. Until I had kids and saw the wonderful relationship they had with their grandparents. Now I see I really did miss out

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  • I grew up,without grandparents, they all died before I came along. My kids grew up without my mum and dad being a part of their lives. We all grew up just fine. I do wonder what it would be like to have grandparents though. My kids had the best Nan, my partners mum, she was the best mother in law too. So sometimes when I think of her, I think on what I missed out on

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  • It will never be the same as your parents! Create memories and photos while you can and tell them all what a wonderful person she is now! Good luck!

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  • Do you have an Update? Miracles Happens….

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  • I have grown up never knowing grand parents, all had passed before my time. while it is hard to have never known them and to hear stories of them, I do treasure everything I have learned about my grand parents.

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  • I can understand your pain my Dad died from cancer and he never seen my daughter graduate year 12 or was at her wedding and has never seen not one of his Great Grand Children and my Mum is fighting cancer and she is terminal. So your story hit me close to home so I am sending you a big hug !

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  • I’m so sorry for you and your family! It must be a horrible feeling too be given a time! All I can say is enjoy every moment you have together and let grandma spoil your daughter as much as she wants now.

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  • Im so sorry to hear this news!
    I lost my Dad in january from cancer
    he was given 4-8 weeks and lived exactly 4. He died the same day his mum did in 2011 also from cancer. The last 4 weeks of his life were so great, we made more memories and the kids spent time with him. My kids only have my mum now as their grandparent, She battled breast cancer in 2010 and I thought I would lose her because cancer kills in our family. Its very hard and will be hard on you and your daughter but the best thing to do is make the most of the time now and remember to always remind your daughter of your mother throughout her life. Remind her she is loved from above and thats the best love of all. I just had preventive breast cancer surgery, had my breasts removed to avoid having breast cancer to be around for my kids. Im sending you all the love & strength I can x

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  • I am so sorry to hear your sad news.Grandparents are very special and I’m sorry your daughter will not have her around for long. My girls also lost a grandmother a few years ago. We honour her memory by visiting the grave, I know this will be difficult for you read, right now, and also on her anniversary we cook a traditional meal that she used to cook for us. It helps keep her memory alive. Having said all that, I hope the doctors are wrong and your mum is around for longer than you have been told. All the best for your family.

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  • I lost my Father last year, and i totally understand your feeling. It’s all very well that there are other family members around but a Grandparent really is someone special. I can tell you it isn’t easy, but the best thing is to let them live on through you. Tell stories often, do things that she would have done. Even ask your Mother to write a list of all the things she wishes she would be able to do with your Daughter. And then throughout her life tick them off. Do a grandma adventure day together. It will help you as well as her. Take too many photos and videos. This will never be enough but it will help.
    There is no right way to deal with this just don’t leave retreats. Good luck and sorry for your news.

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  • I am so sorry for your horrible news :( Make sure you go out and make the most of the time you have left with your mum

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  • I understand ur grief ,Life is full of changes ,death is 1 of them .Try fill ur life with ur Mum & daughter ,do videos etc as a memory for when u miss her .

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  • You’re right. It’s not the same and you have every right to grieve. I’m really sorry that you have to go through this. I have lost too many people to cancer and the only advice I can give is to be kind to yourself and not put any expectations on how you deal with this challenge. Good luck.

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  • I’m sorry to hear about your Mum & having to deal with all the thoughts & emotions associated with it. Your daughter will grow up knowing her Grandma as you’ll have many wonderful stories to tell her. Like your husband has told you there are lots of Aunts & Uncles to help fill that void. I grew up with no grandparents from either of my parents & I don’t feel I missed out on anything.

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  • My mum passed away 3 years ago, when my eldest daughter was 2 years old. My second daughter was born after my mother passed. I too get sad when I think of my girls growing up and not knowing their grandmother. What upsets me more is knowing my mother will never know them. But you and your kids will adjust, even though it may seem unfathomable right now. All the best!

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