Mums going away on holidays without the children

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many people dont agree with mums going away but I do. Especially if its something the mum needs but not too much. Years ago i went to pick up my nephew from a friends place and found a mum who had been through a violent situation. Her partner use to sleep next to a machedee and use to sniff paint fumes in a plastic bag. There was a salvation army person there and they said to me dont leave her there. I did not know the girl but I could not leave her too. Its amazing the salvos did go instead of helping her. They passed the buck like so many when it comes to violent situations. I took her to the YWCA where a woman spoke to her. The girl was 17, scared of the consequences of leaving, and her parents were in melbourne. She was early stages of being pregnant and had no support. She did not get on with her parents.
Once it was decided that she was leaving she packed her bags and i took her back to my home. We built up a relationship with her parents again but she was scared it would not work. She continued to live at my house. We got everything she needed for her baby. Arranged for an audtralia post mail van to take her belongings back to her parents home free. There was ten of those red blue striped bags. I had a nephew in melbourne and a uncle where I could stay.
I was made to feel really guilty by other people that i went with her by bus back to her parents. I stayed nearby at families homes until she was ok. My husband looked after our children. Once she had reunited with them, i never got a thankyou. The parents made her never see anyone she knew again. No appreciation. No contact at all. Never knowing. I respected their wishes. Im a Social Worker now.

Posted by Cynthea Jenke, 7th June 2015

16 Comments

- - mom66977 said
  - 28 Sep 2015
    10:29 pm
great way u made out of this situation

- - dannsbuild said
  - 14 Sep 2015
    8:45 pm
Yes very much good on you for helping that young girl out of a such a situation!

- - grandmahamon said
  - 19 Jun 2015
    6:20 pm
Love that you’re a social worker now! You do such important work – and even if you don’t hear it often – YOU ARE APPRECIATED! =)

- - mom70050 said
  - 15 Jun 2015
    2:02 pm
People always seem to judge situations that they have no actually experience with. Although you may have got no thank you from her/the family I bet what you gained from that was so much more. Great work for helping out where others chose to walk away.

- - christial said
  - 12 Jun 2015
    10:20 am
Sometimes a big part of healing for some people is to cut off all contact with anyone and everyone who was involved in that part one their lives. Including the people who have helped them.. I wouldn’t hold it against her, as long as you are proud of what you’ve done.

- - lepumpkinhead said
  - 09 Jun 2015
    2:39 pm
You are a wonderful person for helping out like you did.

- - miss_sammy said
  - 08 Jun 2015
    10:37 pm
good on you for helping, many ppl would look the other way

- - Kell said
  - 08 Jun 2015
    2:52 pm
Well done for helping out.

- - BellaB said
  - 07 Jun 2015
    5:41 pm
Misleading heading… Anyway, these situations are very complex. Congratulations on helping.
- Cynthea Jenke replied
  
  07 Jun 2015 , 10:35 pm
  I dont think the heading is misleading. I had to go away to help this person. Other people thought it was bad for someone to go away. I stepped out of my comfort zone.
- - mom94125 said
  - 07 Jun 2015
    12:41 pm
things were so hectic at the time that i think it would have been hard to say thankyou. the parents had to deal with their child and everyone had to deal with a baby. i think that if they look back now they would be grateful but at the time it was a lot to cope with. A lot of emotions and thoughts. Dissapointment, grief, happiness, un-certainty and the need to build back bonds and trust. Don’t feel bad as you have stepped in when no-one else would and you helped a person in need and got her and her unborn baby out of that situation. Thankyou for your kind heart.
- mom93821 replied
  
  08 Jun 2015 , 4:49 am
  Extremely well said MOM94125! I can only imagine how difficult this situation would have been for everybody. Just knowing that you have made a difference to someone’s life is a reward.
- - mom56312 said
  - 07 Jun 2015
    11:07 am
It people like you who help people in bad situtions find a new direction in life and give them some hope. It sounds like you have also made a big change in your life to help more people. There should be more people around like you that are willing to help..

- - mom93821 said
  - 07 Jun 2015
    7:15 am
Good on you for helping someone in need of support and TLC. The reward is knowing that she is away from violence and safe. Congrats on becoming a Social Worker.

- - EllenG89 said
  - 07 Jun 2015
    7:11 am
You are a wonderful caring person. Know that you changed her life and made her see the light. She will never forget what you did for her and will be eternally greatful

- - mum4107 said
  - 07 Jun 2015
    6:14 am
Wow. Good on you for helping that young girl out of a terrible situation