many people dont agree with mums going away but I do. Especially if its something the mum needs but not too much. Years ago i went to pick up my nephew from a friends place and found a mum who had been through a violent situation. Her partner use to sleep next to a machedee and use to sniff paint fumes in a plastic bag. There was a salvation army person there and they said to me dont leave her there. I did not know the girl but I could not leave her too. Its amazing the salvos did go instead of helping her. They passed the buck like so many when it comes to violent situations. I took her to the YWCA where a woman spoke to her. The girl was 17, scared of the consequences of leaving, and her parents were in melbourne. She was early stages of being pregnant and had no support. She did not get on with her parents.
Once it was decided that she was leaving she packed her bags and i took her back to my home. We built up a relationship with her parents again but she was scared it would not work. She continued to live at my house. We got everything she needed for her baby. Arranged for an audtralia post mail van to take her belongings back to her parents home free. There was ten of those red blue striped bags. I had a nephew in melbourne and a uncle where I could stay.
I was made to feel really guilty by other people that i went with her by bus back to her parents. I stayed nearby at families homes until she was ok. My husband looked after our children. Once she had reunited with them, i never got a thankyou. The parents made her never see anyone she knew again. No appreciation. No contact at all. Never knowing. I respected their wishes. Im a Social Worker now.
Posted by Cynthea Jenke, 7th June 2015