I am sitting in a hospital room, have been for a few days & will keep doing so although I have to return to work tomorrow but will be here every eveningafterwards. We were on holidays in Qld, it was the 17th October the day we arrived. It was late at night, my man went to the toilet & fell. We were at his parents place, we placed him in bed not sure at this stage what had happened. The next day he seemed fine although as the days went by he started stuttering, his speech was slurred, his right hand/arm was weak. I was so worried as he has had a TIA (mini stroke) in 2008. I knew he had suffered a stroke of some sort so said he must go the hospital. He is so stubborn & wanted to fly back to Melbourne as he was afraid they would keep him in hospital in Brisbane for weeks & I had to come back to Melbourne. To say the plane journey was not nice is an understatement, ordinarily I love flying but all I could think of was what if something had have happened whilst in the air, I felt sick literally. We made it however it didn’t end there, I don’t drive, have never had a licence so Jase had too, here we go again, I was so worried during the half hour car ride. I know you are thinking OMG what we did was so stupid, it certainly was & I knew this all along. The next day was Wednesday, he wanted to stay home so I didn’t go to work as I was so worried. The following day I made an appointment for him, by this stage he said ok. His blood pressure was 225 over something, extremely high. He told the doctor he thinks he had a stroke so was admitted to hospital straight away. They ran tests, he had suffered a stroke however, discharged him the following day. Over the course of the next few days I noticed him becoming weaker, speech was getting worse in fact he couldn’t get out any words at all. He was in the kitchen (so extremely stubborn he is) & stumbled. I popped him on couch, he is double my weight btw & I thought I can’t do this. I rang his parents & his dad arrived that night. We went to have his eye checked, made appt with speech therapist etc, did what the doctors asked. We went to bed & he said to me he thought perhaps they discharged him too early so we went back to the hospital where they ran more tests. Whilst we were there Jase had another stroke & started turning an awful colour. I was so scared & frightened, he is my world. They have since found abnormalities on both sides of the brai & there is talk of maybe operating. I don’t know how long he will be in hospital but I know he is in the best place. I ache for him in bed & the thought of returning to work tomorrow is awful incase something happens & I’m not there but there is comfort in knowing his dad is here & his dad is awesome. I posted a story a few months back called my one & only true love, I can’t lose this man & I’ve only recently found him again. I am so devastated, scared, lonely, frightened, upset, angry, emotional. I don’t know how we will manage on my wage alone but I’m too afraid to think of that at the moment with what’s happening. I know I need to be my bright & bubbly self around him, be positive but I feel I’m not doing a great job of it. All I can do is be there as much as I can & I will be spending every hour I can with him. This photo was taken in Qld during that time. It has affected the right side of his face but is worse now. I have to cope with this but gosh it’s a terrible time

Posted by sanjipanj, 3rd November 2013

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  • this story is good


  • Stroke is a awful condition.My best friend had 1 recently ,15 months in hospital ,sadly never left to see outside ,leaving his daughter behind .Learnig more its a regular event which affects people in different ways .Heres hoping good progress ,strong will & support .thank u for sharing


  • My hubby had a stroke, he couldn’t talk, I knew something was wrong, so drove home to hospital. He wanted to wait and see. It was very scary stuff.


  • I hope things have gotren better for the both of you since posting this story


  • How awful for you. I really hope he is ok, and maybe talk to your work about some compassionate leave so you can be with him.


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