Only as old as you feel... - Real Mum story on MoM

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At 30 I had my first child, a son. I was just getting used to being a Mum when we moved overseas to Auckland, New Zealand for a year – well that was the plan! I found out when my son was 3.5 months old that I was pregnant AGAIN, and we moved back home to our house here in Tassie and where my family all were. I must admit it was a shock, especially as their due dates were the same date – just 12 months apart! Luckily my son had been born a week early, and my daughter a week late ,so they ended up with 12 months and 2 weeks between them.

While I never felt totally “done” with having children, those blurred years with two babies and then two toddlers, then two at school passed very quickly, and it wasn’t until I turned 40 that I realised that I really would like another. After a miscarriage I thought my chances were over, but found I was pregnant again soon later and gave birth to my 3rd child – a son, just days before my 42nd birthday.

Today, at 44 with an energetic 2 year old and two in high school, I’m busy, but you know what, I am LOVING it. The “baby” has given our family a “new lease of life” and none of us know what we ever did without him.

I believe there is no “perfect age” between children. There are pros and cons with the small gap and the big gap that I had, but you make the best of what you get, and what is right for YOU! Many will think I’m “too old” and that’s OK, it’s a personal thing and I’m happy and so are my kids, and just quietly, I plan to be around for a LONG time yet

Posted by Kymichelle, 28th July 2013

9 Comments

- - mom81879 said
  - 07 Sep 2015
    5:53 pm
Only as old as you feel, for sure. Unfortunately, I feel about 65 most days :/ Old before my time I get so tired

- - memo said
  - 16 Jun 2015
    11:11 pm
Lovely story, there is never a right age for having children, Circumstances beyond our control often dictate when you have children.

- - mom108638 said
  - 03 Jun 2015
    8:27 pm
I love this story, thanks for sharing it.
My little sister is 1 year 1 week and 1 day younger than me…. we are really close. we begged mum for a little brother when we were teens; look back I understand that she had a hysterectomy.

- - mom57522 said
  - 06 Jan 2015
    12:23 pm
Exactly! Everyone is different and what’s works for me, might not work for you! Enjoy your babes.

- - aussiemum said
  - 06 Apr 2014
    1:53 pm
I have a girlfriend who is about to have her third baby at 45, and she is by no means old! Congratulations.

- - chezj said
  - 30 Jul 2013
    11:03 am
What a beautiful story. Thank you so much for sharing!

- - yyon4699 said
  - 29 Jul 2013
    12:54 pm
It is always a blessing to have children, despite your age. You must be so proud!

- - melmul said
  - 28 Jul 2013
    9:10 pm
You have put it perfectly. I was 24 with my first then last year at 31 had my 2nd. I had a miscarriage in March & would love to be pregnant again anytime (sooner rather than later). While our age gap has worked well, for me wanting another bub I wouldn’t wait so long again but saying that we are in a far better position now than back then. People are so judgemental whether your a younger mum or an older mum which is a shame, would be nice if others would just mind their own business & be happy for mums. So great to read your loving your family situation & 44 is not old either

- - premmiemum said
  - 28 Jul 2013
    6:09 pm
Thanks for sharing your story and the inspiration that its ok to be a older mum. I had first at 34 and second at 36 and have now been thinking maybe next year would love to try for a third and final one.