It seems like every model, actress, singer and socialite has an easy pregnancy with no complications. Equally, post pregnancy seems like a walk through the park for these pack of super mums. Things seem glossed over though, like post-partum bleeding or hair loss after pregnancy. Post natal depression isn’t something many yummy mummies share on their social media platforms.
Yet, for everyday mums these are issues relevant to our lives, we deal with many not so glamorous side effects from pregnancy and being tied forever more to a tiny dependant person. With so many yummy mummies in the news being marvelled at for simply being yummy mummies, it’s not wonder the rest of us feel like we must be doing something wrong. After all, for celebrity mums they seem to have their six pack back two weeks after giving birth to 10lb babies. Their hair NEVER seems to fall out and they don’t have the dull try complexions common post birth. So what are the rest of us doing wrong?
We never see glamour mums be anything less than perfect because it’s the image they want to put out to the world. Celebrity mums should not be used as examples for the perfect guide to motherhood because their worlds are different from regular working women. A celebrity mum has access to the best personal trainers, dieticians, doctors, make up artists, stylists and plastic surgeons. An everyday working mum usually does not. We can’t compare our lives or how our bodies look post post-partum to the images we see online. Frankly, those images don’t portray every reality. Just one.
It’s great some mothers are able to look flawless so quickly, but it doesn’t make those us stuck in oversized track pants for the next 6 months worth less as human beings. Sometimes, it’s important to step away from social media for some perspective. I don’t know many true super human mums wearing a bikini two weeks after having a baby. The extraordinary ones that are probably genetically blessed, so why compare myself to them? Instead, I will lay back in bed with my baby, stuck in track pants for at least 6 weeks after bub is born. I will try my best not to fall asleep cooking because I am a sleep deprived mess and I buy some enough chocolate and icecream to eat in bed while trying to breast fed a tiny baby from two oversized, stretch marked breasts. Because, pregnancy does not need to be glamorous, and that’s just fine with me.
Posted anonymously, 9th May 2015