Retired mother - Real Mum story on MoM

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ever felt like you’re now no longer needed? All I ever wanted was to be a mum. People used to ask me “And what do you want to be when you grow up?” My answer was ALWAYS “A mum.” And that’s what I did. Now they’ve grown up,and left home……I feel like I have no purpose.
Yes, I still hear from them, almost daily. But I’m not a full time “mum” anymore. I miss it. All of it, even the bad times. I’ld exchange it all now to have it back as it was.
I know I made the right choice to be a mum, I think I did ok, my kids turned out so well. But I need something now. Or I feel like I should need something now. But, honestly, I’m happy to be just mum. I did a pretty good job. And what’s wrong with wanting to be a mum?
Sure, I don’t gave a career, so I don’t have a big house and a flash car. But I do have 2 great kids whom I love with all my heart. I’m satisfied.

Posted anonymously, 3rd September 2015

11 Comments

- - mom81879 said
  - 24 Jan 2017
    12:37 pm
I was the same. My family are very career driven and couldn’t understand that I chose to be a mum, not a Dr or nurse or vet or truck driver. I’m happy being a mum

- - june11 said
  - 14 Mar 2016
    7:06 pm
Maybe you could do voluntary work with children but you would probably need to get a Police Clearance Certificate whatever you volunteer for.
Schools are sometimes looking for volunteers to help children with reading.
I know a Mum who volunteered to cover and repair library books at a Govt. High School. With more schooling being done on computers there may not be as many books. Some schools actually employ teacher aides to help special needs children. Some are just genuine slow learners and once they accomplish something they gain more confidence in themselves. There may be some that are dyslexic and need help with reading and writing. Some see double, need eye tests and special glasses. I know of 2 such cases with distant relatives – not linked genetically in any way.

- - mum888 said
  - 03 Jan 2016
    12:50 pm
When kids grow up it is hard especially when you devoted your life to them . Could you look for a new hobby or volunteer somewhere to help you better cope with the change .

- - mom94125 said
  - 29 Dec 2015
    5:31 pm
it is just transitioning to a new stage of life and all us mums will go through it too! make lots of calls, have lots of visits and shower them in kisses (if you can )

- - dannsbuild said
  - 07 Sep 2015
    12:30 am
Yes well done on raising your kids, hobby time perhaps!

- - mel1 said
  - 04 Sep 2015
    9:04 pm
Sounds like you have done a great job being a mum. It can’t be praised enough. Find something you enjoy and really go for it, take lessons, join the University of the Third Age, they have such great courses and really enjoy something just for you. My youngest is just about at the end of yr 12 so our school days are almost over and I can’t believe the time has gone so quickly.

- - BellaB said
  - 04 Sep 2015
    9:03 pm
Maybe you could volunteer to help kids in some way?

- - mom56312 said
  - 04 Sep 2015
    2:57 pm
You have done a great job with your kids, now is the time to do something for you travel a little and find a hobby. I am sure the kids will be knocking your doors down when they need you. Even when we grow up we never stop needing our mum.
- mom93821 replied
  
  05 Sep 2015 , 7:00 am
  Good comment and so very true too!
- - mom93821 said
  - 04 Sep 2015
    6:53 am
Well done on raising your kids – maybe volunteer your time? So many places need dedicated people.

- - mum4107 said
  - 03 Sep 2015
    8:58 pm
You should be proud that your kids turned out well. Maybe it’s time for a hobby