I applied for a high paying power job just to see if I could get it. Today I got the call that made my tummy curl, I got the job. Normally this would be a thrilling moment for most people.

But for me It isn’t. I am comfortable at home with my 6 month of baby and my 2 year old toddler. I enjoy them, I love motherhood more than anything imaginable. Yes I worked my behind off to become a Psychologist, yes its taken me 9 years. And then I had 2 babies and my priorities changed.

My husband is a night fill at a department store and casual so the money is welcome but as I bought this home cash we have no mortgage and living on one casual income and a mothers allowance actually whilst it isn’t what mot people like financially what about spiritually and holistically for myself and the children and family as a whole.

I breast feed the baby and would be away over 10 hours a day. 4 hours of that be driving!
And my 2 year old is just my world.

My theory always WAS why have kids if you don’t want to be home and be with them (not intending to offend any working mums at all).

Sigh… :(

Posted anonymously, 17th July 2015

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  • Congrats with getting the job !!
    I see this is posted a wee while ago so probably you made already your decision.
    My first thought was as well to negotiate and see if you can move closer to reduce the traveltime.
    I’m curious what you have decided. Can you let us know ?
    Anyway, whatever you have decided success with your plans indeed !


  • negotiate and move closer? hope things turned out ok


  • Yes a big congratulations on getting the job!


  • it will be a period of adjustment if you do but i am sure you will be fine


  • A credit to you for getting the job! I totally relate to your story. I’m still in the process of studying psychology but with a small baby I’m wondering if the end goal is worth it. While I find some aspects of being a mum pretty challenging, I love being the person to raise my boy.
    Hope you figure it out! Maybe apply for a part time job (now you know you can get what apply for :)


  • Congratulations on getting the job! I think the question is how you’ll feel in a year – will you regret it then if the chance never comes again?

    • Indeed – a good point for the poster of this story to weigh up the pros and cons.


  • It sounds like to you have made the decision not to take the job, and if I were you I would do the same. You love being home with your children, to go to being away every day for 14 hours is a long time. Not something I could do.
    Congratulations on being offered the role


  • All parents have to make decisions based on their family’s goals and circumstances. People can have children and work at home or at a workplace; it can be a choice and it can be a necessity and they can all still be loving parents. I believe it is the time and energy parents put into their children that is important. I also believe having children is a blessing and everyone should have an opportunity to be the best parents they can be. Wishing you well with your future plans when you decide what works for you and your family.


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