Standing up and saying "No" - Real Mum story on MoM

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It is such a liberating feeling to stand up to someone in your life that is trying to take advantage of you and others. I have told someone “no” to a request that was selfish and disregarded everybody else’s situation and feelings. The person was shocked as they are used to getting their way and they are sulking. But you have to be authentic and do what is right for you and for others and at times this can mean momentarily upsetting someone.

Posted anonymously, 24th January 2016

9 Comments

- - rachelvk said
  - 26 Jan 2016
    8:59 pm
Good on you. It can be a hard realisation to come to but well done for standing up for yourself!

- - mum4107 said
  - 25 Jan 2016
    7:18 am
Totally agree. Good on you.

- - Lori-Anne said
  - 24 Jan 2016
    8:24 pm
I can certainly sympathize and empathize with you…
I have done something similar recently with a family member. Didn’t go down so well but I stood up for myself & I know that I am in the right.
- mom93821 replied
  
  25 Jan 2016 , 6:19 am
  Good on you! It is hard to do at times, but you do have to be true to yourself. If someone respects you they will learn to live with your choice/point of view and may even respect your choice/point of view.
  - mom94125 replied
    
    25 Jan 2016 , 5:15 pm
    
    yes you gain respect or are better off without them
- - mom94125 said
  - 24 Jan 2016
    5:03 pm
yeah! you do have to stand up for yourself or you will be walked on for the rest of your life! good on ya!

- - mom165081 said
  - 24 Jan 2016
    2:16 pm
Its all too easy to say yes to people who don’t ask, but rather assume compliance. Good for you for saying no and looking after yourself first.

- - mom90758 said
  - 24 Jan 2016
    11:05 am
It’s really liberating indeed! And learning to say “no” is a way to show appreciation to ourselves. We should do it more often. If we don’t feel like doing something, it’s our right to say no. And if people always assume that we will always says yes… well.. they will be disappointed. Their problem.
- mom93821 replied
  
  24 Jan 2016 , 11:08 am
  Excellent point about showing appreciation to ourselves! We have to love ourselves and stand by our morals, ethics and personal code.