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Ok so last year I unfortunately lost a baby at 8 weeks (yes I know it was early) but I still cant get over it. I have no one to talk to about it either, the one person I spoke to told me to get over it its life deal with it. I just cant. No one really knows about it either, its the 1 year anniversary since I lost my baby. I still cry myself to sleep thinking if maybe I did something different it wouldn’t of happened, I feel like its my fault. as what would of been my due date got closer throughout the year I felt worse. especially what was my due date! I spent the whole day in bed crying. im just at a loss at what to do im finding it so hard to move on with my life.
im sorry that its a bit all over the place its just hard to really express how I feel.


Posted anonymously, 26th October 2014


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  • So sorry about your loss and particularly the fact you have no one to talk to. The person you spoke to should have supported you not shut you down. It is an emotional time and no matter whether you lose a baby early or later on in pregnancy it is still a loss and the feelings are the same. Sending you hugs and hope that you are managing ok.

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  • great exellent

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  • So sorry for your loss. A pregnancy is a potential baby, no matter what stage you lost it at. Allow yourself to grieve. I hate that we live in a society where people think it’s not ok to grieve.

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  • i myself have never had a miscarriage but my daughter passed away at 8.5 weeks old. It was terrible. I am so sorry for your loss.
    There is alot of support available.
    I am not sure if you have heard of bears of hope but they have been a wonderfful support to me. They have a facebook page and it is a private group. You can speak to others who have been through similar situations. Hope this helps.

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  • i’m proud of you for trying to help yourself. it will get better, you just have to work through and understand what you need and talk to the baby’s father or someone in your family.

    i have a miscarriage story which i actually shared on here and it’s called =love and miscarriage= in case you wanted to read it. i was 13wks along but a scan revealed that the baby has stopped growing at 10wks.

    you are not alone hun!

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  • Ive lost two babies now one at 7 weeks and one at 10 weeks and i still think what if everyday its been 5 years since the last one.
    I wont lie you never get over losing a baby but in time you will start to deal with it better.

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  • I too miscarried and sometimes wonder about the little angel and it has been 34 yrs. I did grieve but also told myself it was natures way of telling me something was not right. I would like to suggest counselling, ask your GP or ring Sids and Kids. Also there are support groups and help groups and blogs (just google) that may help to ease your pain.
    All my love to you, you will still think of your little angel but time will heal in many ways. xx

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  • Your human with emotions and feelings , its normal to think of a misscarrige of a baby especially around special dates and for it to bring back emotions, I don’t know your circumstances,if you are constantly thinking about it I really think you should go see a councillor to help you work through what you are feeling

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  • I lost my baby at 13 weeks – about 9 years ago. At the time it was the most devestating thing. Of course you have every right to feel sad and grieve. You lost your child, regardless of how developed it was. You lost your hopes and dreams. You can take a long as you need to heal. I talked freely about my loss. Most people knew about it and I felt talking about it helped. Even now we speak about it from time to time. My children (8 and 5) know about the baby we lost and my daughter (5) mentions “him” all the time. Just yesterday she bought him up – saying if he was alive we woud have 3 kids etc. Look after yourself and don’t feel bad about still grieving.

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  • You are still working though for what you have lost that is normal be kind to yourself and give yourself time to heal

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  • It is normal to feel sad about losing a baby, and it’s normal for that sadness to continue in the background and rear up occasionally. I think, however, you may be over-reacting due to your lack of someone to talk to. Can your GP refer you to a sympathetic counsellor? Or ring SIDS and Kids. They have good counsellors.

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  • Dont be sorry. People deal with grief differently. Its hard to lose a baby and have no reasoning behind it. I lost a baby at 9 weeks and was devastated. My miscarriage started at the hospital where i was with mum while she was having her cancer treatment so it was a huge emotional rollercoaster for me. I already had a son and never thought it would happen to me. I did learn that miscarriage is 93% never a mothers fault unless drugs or something was involved. I also learnt that the body will automatically reject a pregnancy if something isn’t right so in almost all cases of miscarriage the pregnancy wasn’t right as in the fetus was not developing at all or the right way. I hope you find comfort at some point and are able to move forward. Please believe everything happens for a reason

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  • I also lost a baby at around 8 weeks it was the most devastating news and dont let anyone tell you it was to early, it was a baby, your baby and you have the right to grieve. Nobody can feel what you felt while carrying a baby even for only a few weeks a woman feels it every little bit of early pregnancy. My thoughts are with you x

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