Thank you all so much for your comments, The communication lines are slowly getting there. My recent outburst of emotion ( by recent I mean 3 hours ago) probably didn’t help the situation but we are slowly getting there :).

I like your solution! My husband is actually rather wonderful – so long as I write things down for him!

I can feel your pain… I hope that you both can seek a work life balance and if things don’t improve please seek some help to resolve the issues early.

This sounds like the average male, my hubby is the same at times and he wonders why i treat him like one of the children sometimes. It might be a good thing that he has a job so he gets out and about a little, but he has responsibilities to you and you bubs.. Its a good thing that you have your hours written down, he should also add his to the board as well. Then there is no excuse not to be there when needed. Its ok to be angry when let down.. Hope it all works out for you..

I think you are handling the situation very well. It can be very frustrating and I certainly share a lot of your feelings as my husband has similar traits. I have a habit of getting outwardly frustrated and angry and that just seems to make things worse. Instead I have found keeping calm and trying to change the situation one small step at a time (baby steps) works for us.

This is quite funny as I think I may have your hubs nature ( but I do communicate all the time ) and hub has your nature ( choleric person ?) . Anyway , I can tell how you write , that both your communcations styles are different which can be a problem if you both re not aware of this . Did your hub have a good reason why he didn’t phone up and plus a phone call ??? I would expect some decent answer , regardless of whether he turns up or not . I don’t know if your hib is classified as “passive ” but putting a roster in front of him instead of sitting down and talking may cause a reaction you may not like . My sister in law is currently experiencing this and has turned into verbal abuse which is uncalled for , but deep inside is because he hates being told what to do ( as he was disrespected by his family ) . it is also his responsibility of not knowing how to communicate and he turned ” passive aggressive ” . You may want to have a look at this personality in Google and see if it fits your husband . ( the passive side more probably is in him ). Hope it works out soon , and it sounds like more of a brush up in communication than anything else .

Well done mum a. You sure handled that well. Better than I would have.

Argh! I would be so upset if I were you. I hope he will start looking at your roster now! The two of you surely need to talk about this all arrangement. You both have to do some sacrifices, not just you. And if he can’t help, maybe it would be better to pay for an extra help at home with the kids. Surely something needs to change.

haha lol! i am an adult so i can swear but i don’t want to subject these sweet and innocent mums to that but you, my dear are a F**ken legend for the way you handled that stress! Good on ya for making it “hard” for him to miss your schedule!

Life can be really tough at times – My only comment to this, apart from sympathy for you, is that being out of work is also pretty tough. Maybe he might be a bit depressed and feels like he needs some support too? Not saying what he did was right, or that your reaction is highly justifiable – just a comment.