I want to start by saying I’m blessed that I have one beautiful and healthy child and that I feel that my heartache may be premature as I have only been trying to conceive for a bit over 2 years and I know there are many women out there who have been trying for much longer.

However, for anyone at any stage on the trying to conceive journey there is a roller coaster of emotions. The emotion I find the hardest to deal with is the news of a loved one falling pregnant. The reason it is the headrest is because there is a strong emotion of happiness and joy towards the loved one and their great news and there is also the strong emotion of sadness as it reminds me of my own desire to bear another child.

Other emotions that are hard to deal with are the highs and lows when you are trying. As each time I try I convenience myself it worked and that I will be pregnant this time only to get a period a week later and be at my lowest, devastated that once again I have an empty uterus.

And is it just me or when you are trying does everyone you see at the shops or around town have a newborn or a pregnant belly. Honestly, I wish everyone out there baby happiness, I just pray that the baby making fairies visit me again soon.

Posted by katrey, 10th September 2013

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  • I totally understand your heartache. I conceived my daughter easily, sadly she passed away at 8.5 weeks old.
    We are now having so much trouble conceiving. I think the stress of it all has really affected me.


  • Thanks for this story, I too am currently having trouble conceiving and although we’re not too stressed about it yet it has been awhile so we’ll be starting to look at other options sometime soon…
    Good luck with your journey!


  • Stress is a biggie in having trouble conceiving. All Fertility issues cause a rollercoaster of mixed emotion. I had two healthy boys easily and then this one took over 6 months of trying and I was a bit of an emotional mess… especially seeing so many pregnant women or women with cute little girl babies…. I saw several diff doctors who all put it down to my stress levels at work. I was advised to have a month off which I didn’t do but thinking about it all made my stress come down and when I stopped thinking about trying to make it happen- it just happened. Good luck :-)


  • Thanks everyone for your support. Thanks Moonberry for sharing your story sometimes I feel very alone in my situation as all my friends are having babies not infertility problems. I have had some testing done and I do have PCOS and have had a miscarriage. I think my stress levels aren’t helping. I really want to relax and not think about TTC but it is so hard. So my new plan is to be positive and try to relax might try some yoga or meditation:) I’m glad your PCOS is improving and I wish you luck in TTC.


  • We are blessed with children, however we wanted that one last child before deciding that was it (no more).. Anyhow, after our last was born we started TTC, 2 years later we found out I had PCOS, and have so many cysts and hormone changes within that 2 years.. 2 more years went on, and I was an emotional wreck, because people I knew had 3-4 children in the time and we had 2 miscarriages.. Then one day, I woke up and didn’t think about TTC, and I felt great.. We still haven’t got our baby, but it is much easier to cope while not thinking about it too. We now know that I am very fertile these past few months, and have been ovulating, and have no more cysts or hormone issues, have my periods regularly as well, so one day soon, we will be blessed once again :)

    I know you are hurting right now, but please remember, it will happen when the time is right, when your body knows it’s right.. I know ‘easier said than done’ right?! You will have your second bub, you will.. xx

    Have you had testing done at all? I didn’t even think there was an issue with myself until we had testing done..


  • i am so sorry for what you are going through right now. I hope all works out for you


  • stay postive it will happen. a friend of mine was trying for years due to a medical condition was unlikely to conceive, yet it happened, so my advise is stay positive and have fun trying.


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