My son is 2 and a half. I have worked really hard to not try and loss the plot when he throws a tantrum. Children will react to the way you react to different situations. With a lot of trial and error I find the best was to speak with him when he goes into one of his moods is go down to his level and talk to him firmly of what I expect of him. I have done this for quite a while now and find some people don’t quite understand why I am talking to a baby and now toddler like I would an adult. I kept getting told by family and friends you realising you are talking to a baby/ toddler. Me losing the plot is not going to help the situation. Me sitting down and discussing the issue with him has worked wonders. He now knows when he has done something wrong. It is all in his eyes
I was in Aldi the other day and he decided to lose the plot. I hope on down to his level and told him what I expected of him. How he was to behave when we were out in public and to use his soft voice. A little girl in a trolley said to her mummy “Mummy, that lady is telling off her little boy”, her mummy’s response was “No she is not telling him off she explaining what she expects of him and to behave while out in public”. It made me feel extremely happy that someone that was a stranger would give such a complement. I took it that way. Once I heard this I knew I was doing the right thing. I don’t believe you should raise your voice to your child and try to discuss with them what you expect from them. Don’t get me wrong I have had a number of times where I have lost the plot. My best method then is to simply walk away calm myself down, first ensuring your child/ baby is safe. If you can discuss the situation and your expectations from the start they will know. Children are a lot more smarter then sometimes us adults give them credit for.
Posted by amanda, 21st February 2014