Trying for our First child but its getting disheartening!

9 Comments

Hi there, I just have to say this site has been great reading for me and helping me know what’s in store. My partner and I are trying for our first child and not having a lot of luck at this stage, my specialist say’s I am being impatient but its hard when a lot of our friends and family are getting pregnant (some for the second and third time around) and we aren’t, and they all seem to get pregnant just looking at their partners! We did have 1 very early miscarriage a few months ago, but didn’t even know we were pregnant yet, so didn’t even get the joy of a positive HPT. We’ve been off the pill since August but probably only properly trying since Christmas so I know its not that long, but I’m nearly 35 and it just seems like time is getting away.

I’m sure my body is probably trying to tell me its not ready, as I had a very serious car accident 2 years ago which I am still recovering from and doctors have all said pregnancy and birth is going to be extra painful for me and put a lot of strain on my body but I can handle that to have that wonderful feeling of holding my baby in my arms. As each month goes by and nothing again its just disheartening to know we have to wait yet another month, and I don’t think this month was any good either – oh well time will tell I suppose!

Hopefully next month will be our turn! I’m ready to be a mum!!!

Posted by catchick56, 29th July 2013

9 Comments

- - mom113055, VIC said
  - 01 May 2015
    1:51 pm
stories are great

- - mom103936, VIC said
  - 15 Jan 2015
    4:35 pm
How are you going? Hope all is well. I am in a similar situation to yourself recovering from the loss of my first and only daughter. I would love another baby and have been trying for a long time but have not fallen pregnant. I am seeking help through a fertility specialist. I hope it helps. Good luck with your journey.

- - mom57522, VIC said
  - 06 Jan 2015
    12:32 pm
Don’t give up! There are so many wonderful stories on this site about mums following their baby dreams.

- - meimei, VIC said
  - 25 May 2014
    4:58 pm
Don’t give up for it because my friends need to wait five years for her first baby.

- - tilly, VIC said
  - 11 May 2014
    7:30 pm
The first thing you should know is don’t stress about it, It will happen when it happens and stressing will not help at all.

- - catchick56, VIC said
  - 30 Jul 2013
    5:19 pm
Thank you all for your support, its good to know I’m not alone and others have been through the same! Hopefully one day soon, I’ll be able to comment on here as a mum!

- - kymichelle, VIC said
  - 30 Jul 2013
    1:11 pm
It took me over 6 months with my first (I was 29, hubby 34). I’m happy to say I now have 3 aged 13, 12 and 2. The third I had just days before my 42nd birthday. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself, and I hope you are pregnant very soon.

- - premmiemum, VIC said
  - 30 Jul 2013
    10:41 am
Good luck!! I tried for many years to fall pregnant but I was told due to having pcos I wouldn’t have any. I stppped stressing about it and just had fun. I fell pregnant and had my first 1 month after turning 35. They said that probably be my only child but the same time my baby turned 1 I said to hubby lets just try this month doing the deed” on the right days and I fell pregnant so 3 months before my 37 bday I had my second miracle. The moral of my story is just have fun make doing the deed fun and forget the stress of making a a baby, I know its hard to try forget about a baby when you desperately want a baby also Try to cut out all stress as possible out of life, relax as much as can and fingers crossed your dream will come true sooner then later.

- - kjgarner, VIC said
  - 30 Jul 2013
    9:26 am
Good luck it took me roughly 9-14 months to fall pregnant with each of my pregnancies. I hope it all works out for you soon. I do understand what you mean about seeing others around you pregnant or holding a baby and you think that its not fair. I myself had to wait with a stillborn and 3 miscarriages before I got my miracle baby daughter. It does take time and sometimes you wonder if it’s going to happen at all. Its hard not to think about falling pregnant when your desperate to fall pregnant. Gook Luck Best Wishes and I hope sometime very soon you get to have a beautiful pregnancy and gorgeous baby at the end!