Was I doing the right thing? - Real Mum story on MoM

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In 1983 I was pregnant with a girl and even though I loved my son a real lot wanted a little girl of my own. I was told early on before finding out about her sex that my baby may not survive the pregnancy and should abort it. I have nothing against those who would but to me it was a life no matter would happen. To hold that baby is what I wanted as the odds of it being born and surviving were very slim.

So i decide to keep the baby, then finding out it was a girl made me even more determined as I figured if my health was not in danger, it was their decision to leave when they wanted. I did not tell my family about her , only my husband knew as we were leaving a fair distance away from any family. I carried her to a five months and then she gave up. I have never regretted the decision to do what I did , my husband said it was my body and he only wanted to stand by my decision. I went on to have others but never forgot her.

I have been told it was wrong of me to carry a baby that had no chance of surviving, I think and believe that it is a woman’s right as long as it is not hurting her to do what she wants.

Posted by youngoldlady, 18th September 2013

15 Comments

- - mom113055 said
  - 05 May 2015
    4:20 pm
great to read

- - EllenG89 said
  - 15 Apr 2015
    8:33 pm
Couldn’t agree with you more here! Good on you for sticking to what you believed and felt comfortable with

- - mom93821 said
  - 31 Jan 2015
    6:25 pm
Thanks for sharing your touching story; you obviously have a lot of inner strength.

- - mom99528 said
  - 03 Jan 2015
    11:27 pm
Power to be with you mumma! You did an amazing thing x

- - BellaB said
  - 31 Aug 2014
    11:33 pm
You made the best decision you could.

- - memo said
  - 30 Apr 2014
    11:14 pm
Tracey, your baby was much loved by you and your husband. Smile whenever you think of her, she paved the way for the children you now have. Have a happy life with your family with no regrets! No one has the right to judge your decision, they have not walked in your shoes.

- - yyon4699 said
  - 31 Mar 2014
    4:46 pm
Good on you for being such a fighter!

- - jool055 said
  - 22 Sep 2013
    10:09 pm
I’m with you and your husband- your body, your choice. Not an easy choice but yours nevertheless. For the 5 months she was with you in body she was loved. Since she didn’t make it to full term the love doesn’t go away. You are /were a very brace woman / couple. Love to you.

- - kate77 said
  - 20 Sep 2013
    9:53 am
What is so wrong for you attempting to give life and hope to a birth? Nothing. I applaude you for being so strong and courageous to take the step to continue with your pregnancy knowing what the outcome could be. I believe you took the hardest road, a lot of people tend to opt for the easiest route that causes the less distress. Dont ever doubt the decision you made and dont listen to people who say that it was wrong of you to attempt it. Until a person has walked a mile in your shoes they will never understand or know what you have been through.
- mom57522 replied
  
  07 Jan 2015 , 7:24 pm
  Wonderfully well said. Most people would have taken the easy option.
- - hailecherry said
  - 20 Sep 2013
    9:12 am
Your story us so touching. You didbthe right thing hunny. As a mummy I would of done the same. Xx

- - katrey said
  - 19 Sep 2013
    6:58 pm
Your love and dedication to your unborn daughter is touching and what courage and strength you showed, thank you for sharing.

- - omgjag31 said
  - 19 Sep 2013
    3:07 pm
I think you did what was right for you and that is the main thing.

- - youngoldlady said
  - 19 Sep 2013
    2:58 pm
Thank you Oz mummy for your answer.

- - oz mummy said
  - 19 Sep 2013
    2:08 pm
Good on you for trying to give you little girl a life sorry for you heartbreak your a very strong woman