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So, my hubby (and our 2 girls) and I decided to move 3 hours from where we live to have a “sea change” we sold our house in December and moved in with my parents until hubby found work there. Well he found work and now its time to start looking for houses to either buy or rent. Its such a massive move and its away from all our friends and family. It is something we have always wanted and he is living by himself there so he can work while I am up here with the girls working. I need to quit my full-time job to move obviously; but do I try and find work now or wait until we have a place (and then how do we afford the mortgage/rent)? I don’t know what to do, or do I become a stay at home mum? Do centrelink pay you for that? I just don’t have all the information I need to make all these decisions! I don’t want to make the wrong one, but I at the same time I want to hurry up and be a family again – sick of living separately its been 3 long months, and we all miss each other. Ideas, suggestions, help, previous experiences etc all welcome! Thanks in advance ladies!


Posted by twinmum83, 3rd September 2014


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  • Talk to centrelink, you may be entitled to Family Tax Benefit A or B. This is income tested so they will pay you based on what your husband earns but be prepared to receive a lot less than what you would be earning. Ideally if you could find a job before you moved there that would be perfect. Do you have any skills that you could turn into a work at home business?

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  • I hope everything has worked out for you and your family.

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  • I hope by now that things have worked out for you :)

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  • We moved but only because hubby got a job first.

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  • move then find job :) good luck

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  • centrelink will give you some support with family tax a and b but only going by your hubbys income it kind of like a top up payment for low income

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  • Contact Centrelink, they don’t pay people to stay at home. Your hubby has a job, however there maybe some form of payment depending on his level of income and how many children you have and their ages – that’s something only you can sort out with them. We did a tree change five years ago and planned everything prior to selling our home so that the move went smoothly.

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  • I would wait until you move than go on the job hunt and if you want to be a stay at home Mum ring centerlink and see what they have to say. Either way get your kids settled first

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  • Have not had any experience with this so will leave all the wonderful advice to the other mums but I do want to wish you well, best wishes for a happy and exciting time.

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  • We just moved, my husband had a job, I moved a few weeks after with our 2 girls. I got my oldest settled in school then I went job hunting. Was great found a job 2 days a week next to a day care center then got my daughter enrolled. Maybe just rent for a while so you are not stressing about a mortgage straight away.


    • Thank you! So happy to hear from someone else that’s gone through it! Did you guys rent or buy? Reading all the comments below I think we will rent, it makes sense.

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  • Yep I reckon you should look for work and rent so you don’t rush into purchasing something just to get there. Once you are settled back together as a family you can make the big decisions about purchasing.

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  • Definitely start looking for work in the new place- and just rent for first 6-12 months until everything feels settled.

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  • I’d be looking for some form of work, just so you do have an income. Centrelink won’t pay you as your spouse works. It’s a big gamble that you’ve taken & as you don’t know anyone I’d rent before I buy anything. I hope everything works out well for you & your family.

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  • Centrelink won’t pay you to be a SAHM, though depending on your circumstances and finances you may be eligible for some supplementary payments. I’d start looking for work now; then you know what your finances are, and if you want to quit later and be a SAHM at least you’ll have had some cash to get you past the move.

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  • You can get an idea of what Centrelink might offer you based on your partner’s income. That will help decide whether you need to work full time, part time or can afford all the bills and spend some time with the kids at first. Either way, have a plan and try and stick to it. If it’s what you have been wanting, believe in it :-)

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