At the end of the day it’s your child and you do what works for you. I was lucky that my husband worked night shift so I would work while he was home with the kids and didn’t need to use child care. But if that wasn’t an option then my kids would have been in childcare too.

do what works for your family i say 🙂

I’m very lucky to have great supportive mothers groups

Love is to be shared by a family to young ones especially as the warmest feeling is talking to a young child answering a child as to reassure them they are safe and the difference between right and wrong and maintain trust as to why we sometimes do what we do. Xxx

Yep, don’t feel ashamed for your choices. Sadly there are always people who judge or know better, don’t let them get at you !

You have to do what’s best for your family. Everybody’s families are different.

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  • • Mum2archer replied
    • 14 Nov 2019 , 2:39 pm

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  Exactly! What works for one wont necessarily work for another

I am a member of a ‘support’ group for parents of reflux babies/children and some of the women on there are brutal! I have seen some downright nasty comments made to mums who were already very vulnerable and reaching out to like minded parents for words of encouragement. I have never understood what drives women to tear others down so they feel better about themselves, is it a cultural thing or simply a woman thing?

I’ll never understand why some women are so self righteous. The triggers for them are always either daycare or feeding ones baby. Honestly, as long as no children are in harm’s way and whatever the plan is works for the individual family – why does it become such a big deal for these women? It’s almost like they can’t exist unless they have someone to dress down.

I’ve learned that each family has own formula for their family. If you run around following others advice you’ll be like a headless chook trying nowhere. You’re damed if you do dammed if you dont.
Hold your head high in your choices and smile and wave.
They’ll hate that too!

This quote in this article “I find it odd that the harshest critics of women are often other women. Why is that so hard for some of us to pat each other on the back?” says it all really ….

If your child doesn’t settle the sooner you walk out of sight the better. They settle quicker that way. When they are older sometimes they are having so much fun they don’t want to go home at the end of the day. Some Mum have no option. They have to feed their children, keep a roof over their heads and clothe them. I some cases it is the only place that children are able to interact with others in their age group.

I just think motherhood isn’t a one lane kinda thing. It’s a different journey for everyone & if you don’t get someone else’s journey well then, just stay in your bloody lane! Support each other, lift each other up & celebrate the successes of other mothers. Help with the pitfalls or just mind your own business. So simple!

I’m a better mother because i spend time away from my boys. They love daycare and they learn so much. My 3 year old came home talking about skeletons and bones and skin. My 2 year is speaking Spanish at home. They have been in daycare 3 days a week since 8-9 months. And i have a lot more patience because i spend time away from them. I have never felt guilty about it.

I can’t afford child care, if i went back to work i would only be getting enough to cover the fees so I have to stay home, sometimes I can pick up a week or two at my old job but my husband has to take time off to cover the home duties, it sucks but it is the only way it works for us, if I was to work weekends I would have no family time

Women are bitches! I’ve always said it! From when they become teenagers, they are teenage bitchy mc bitch face

Some people are so quick to judge!

Child care is necessary for so many families. I don’t know how anyone can judge this.

I went back to full time daycare work with my baby. We were in different rooms. I’d drive to work in dark to open the centre my baby in the back of my car. It was what needed to be done for the house we wanted to buy. In heinsight it was sad for me, as a mum. A lot of stress. But you know what. It is life and it is what it is. She was not harmed nor was worse off for it. She adapted better than I did. It can be difficult. If Bub doesn’t settle. Or is sick a lot. Judging doesn’t help. It doesn’t benefit. Everyone has different lives, do what is your instinct, not peer pressure. They don’t live under your roof dealing with the dam dailies you do.

Its very easy to judge someone. I think it’s harder to try to put yourself in their shoes.

This attitude really annoys me. Mothers ask other mothers advice, we should helping not judging and putting mothers down.
I hardly ask other mums about my children because I am worried about the negative backlash I might receive. And that’s an awful shame.