We are all different and we live with different circumstances.
I was a stay at home Mum for my 3 girls. My husband was not helpful in raising the girls other then to supply the income so i often used to say that I flet like a single mum but without the concern of where the money was coming from (except for the times that there was no work or the bank account was drained due to his over spending) Anyway…. I was very thankful that I was able to stay at home with the kids and always felt strong admiration for working Mums. I dont think i would have been able to handle the pressure of working as well as thats what it would have been for me.
Some woman are better Mums for being away from the home and working.
Some woman work because they have to and not because they want to.
So many different situations.
We all do what we have to do. No one should be judged.

Ive seen some rubbish on this site, but this would have to be the worst article I have seen.
Working parents do every single thing listed there for heavens sake. how could they actually not be the primary carer for their child. Its literally what the definition is!
The mined boggles that somebody who is presumably a working mum themselves suggests that working mums arent there for milestones and developmental stages. Do they think that children live 24/7 at childcare.
Terrible article.

It’s different for every family.
I’m a SAHM and appreciate that I had the chance to do so.
But there are pros and cons to both, like enjoying having those younger years with the kids or being employed and having financial freedom

I’m a solo parent and love being a stay at home parent. I would like to work part time ideally. I just don’t have the 24/7 availability I did pre kids, which often seems like a prerequisite. Full time works seems easier to find after a period away from the workforce, despite gaining qualifications from study in the meantime. Especially with additional needs it is a challenge. Good luck to all the mums making this difficult choice, we are all trying to do our best for ourselves and our families.

I don’t believe those mums who are coupled who say they can’t afford to stay at home. I’m a stay at home mum. Currently we have a mortgage and paying rent at the same time. Have 2 cars to maintain and same bills as everyone else. My husband is on average wage and all the mums at his work don’t know how we can afford for me to look after the kids. I don’t understand what they are doing to not be able to afford it.
But I’ve heard many mums who have gone back to work tell me it’s easier to be at work than to look after the kids. And that makes more sense to me than the financial reason. People don’t have to make excuses to go to work. If you don’t like raising your kids full time then just say it. It is challenging. We all get it. I know there’s guilt associated with choosing to go to work. No one is better than the other for their choice. And I have a lot more respect for those mums who are honest about it.

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  • • sunflower replied
    • 08 Jan 2022 , 4:20 pm

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  So judgemental! First of all the definition of raise is to support. Something that working parents do.
  Secondly, how simplistic to reduce the decision down to work to nothing but money. People work for lots of reasons. I had 2 sick parents who couldnt work and it was awful. Thats why I will stay in the workforce so I dont get locked out of it.

I work full time but at this stage I would love to be a stay at home mum even though my girls are in year 4 & 6 now I’m over working but I love my lifestyle too!

At the end ofnthe day everyone is different and live different lives

It’s a personal choice. I loved being a stay at home mum and didn’t miss the workforce at all.

I’ve been a stay at home mum for 5 years now. I have 3 children and my husband is on a low income. We do struggle financially at times but I love being there for my kids all of the time. My husband is amazing and gives me time on my own regularly especially the weekends. We can’t go on expensive holidays or get takeaways but I think the sacrifices are worth it

With the cost of childcare these days is it worth going back to work cause most of there wage is gone on childcare

I love being a stay at home mum but I also love when I work, the reality is that I actually can’t afford to work as everything I would earn would go straight into paying for child care

Hard in this economy most have to work and can’t stay home

i loved being a stay at home mum, but now I work full time as my girls are older now and both in primary/high school. My husband works close by and has more flexible work hours than myself so we have swapped roles a bit and he is there in the mornings and after school and I get home in time to make dinner and I do the girls hair before I go to work. I am tired and constantly forgetting things but I am loving being a full time contributor to our finances and therefore providing more opportunities for weekend activities with my girls

I love being a stay at home mum. I wish it didn’t come attached with some sort of expectation that one should reenter the workplace as soon as possible though. There’ll always be work, but children won’t stay young nor will they always stay young enough to always want you around. So I’m making the most of my time now and if I get a suer casual one day a week job that I love in the meantime, then bonus!

We were lucky that I could be flexible with my work to do this for a time

Your babies, then little ones, are only little once. You can’t get that valuable time back, so if you can possibly afford it, make the most of quality time spent with them, watching them grow and learn. As I say, you can’t get that time back and you don’t want to regret it if you put work over family.

it is a privilege and blessing and unfortunately not everyone has the choice. The kids grow up so very quickly too.

I love being a stay at home mum!

I feel really sad for the mums who would love to stay home but financially don’t have that option. I know some who prefer to go to work but there are alot that would love to be in that position but just can’t make it work financially. I’m forever grateful to my partner for being able to provide enough that I get that luxury. It is the greatest gift to have all this special time watching my girl grow and become a little person.

It’s a pity that some Mums miss out on being the first person to see their child/children achieve milestones. I realise some have to work to pay the mortgage or rent and other necessities. The price of basic food (no luxuries) has risen significantly over the last few months. I buy sliced Deli Ham for sandwiches. It is the cheapest ham. It also doesn’t seem to be as salty. In 4 months the price has risen $1.50 per kg Nothing goes up by 5 or 10 cents any more. Another example is one family member is lactose intolerant. His milk has increased $0.45 recently. Most prices have risen at least $0.50 and some are several $. I try to get extra of items we eat all the time when they are on special, then hopefully I won’t need to buy more until they come on special again. I don’t know how so many people can afford take-away so often. I know people who reckon they are struggling yet they have take-away twice a week. I realise that is their decision but they are putting a strain on their budget. It is great for a treat or in an emergency.