I guess we are all different. My husband and I always took the kids with us and I really loved that. If its important to you then perhaps try and see if you can catch him during his lunch break at work while the kids are at school.

Feel so sorry for this mum – it’s taking the SNAG syndrome just too far.

I can understand that would be tough, my hubby always wants to bring the kids when we plan things as well but he still understands certain occasions it should just be us 2 and we do get one one one time occasionally but 98% of the time the kids also come and we do things as a family he doesn’t outright refuse.

My husband is also all about the kids can be very frustrating

I would feel a bit hurt. After all I’m sure she doesn’t expect it all the time! It’s not a holiday just a date night once in a while.

Love when dads want to include the kids but it’s also healthy for your relationship to leave them for an hour to be by yourselfs to reconnect

Wouldn’t work for me but it’s kind of sweet
No partner for me to worry about this with

Hmmmm, each to their own

I’m wondering if he was always left out of things when he was a child and that’s why he is acting like this. See if he is willing to spend one date night alone one week and then a family night out with the kids. It also depends on how old the kids are too.

They need to get their priorities straight. They need to be able to have a balance between work and home life. If work is taking up so much time that there isn’t both alone time for them and time for the kids this is where the problem lies.

We always make date nights or coffee dates. Somuch so that our son gets jealous and wants to come too. But, we realise it’s important that we spend time together as well as each of us spending one-on-one time with our son. We’ve always factored in time for us as a couple, no matter how rushed or tricky it might be.

If it’s with the kids then I wouldn’t class it as a date. That’s called family time.

At the moment I’m still feeding our second child so we can’t go alone. But we make do by spending time together when both kids are in bed, even if it’s just sitting next to each other on the coach searching something in tv. We are together we talk and we connect. I am craving some time with just us and I know my partner can’t wait until we can do movie dates at the cinema again watching adult shows instead of kids stuff haha.

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  • • Ellen replied
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  Yes that what we did and do too. Going out is not possible for every family, especially when you’ve children with special needs and no family around.

never get enough alone couples time and it is important inn a marriage.

I didn’t go out alone with my husband either in ages ! With 2 kids with special needs and no family around we just have to cope by ourselves. Spending quality time is also possible at home when the kids are in bed, it doesn’t have to be in the form of a date.

I think date night is super important…. even if you spend half the night talking about the kids.

It so hard to spend quality time away from you kids because that mum guilt is real hahaha

A lot of women would love a man like that. Caring about his kids. There must be times she has him to herself however things will change as the children get older just hang in there,

It’s a tricky situation. She says they both work high pressure jobs that don’t allow much time, it’s natural to want to see and spend time with your children and partner as a family. Normally we would be happy to read about a man who wants to make his children a priority and to spend time with them. I do understand her desire to have one on one time with her husband too and find it strange that he won’t commit to one meal out alone together. Without knowing the kids ages or how they feel about sleepovers but perhaps she could arrange for the children to have a sleepover at friends or family for a night and then just spend time with each other. He can’t exactly suddenly decide to go get the kids.

Hw can you have a sensible conversation with kids underfoot constantly?