When Mother's Day Gift Giving Backfires

I am no stranger to sending myself thoughtful gifts – from my husband. I’m practically doing him a favour by making his life less overwhelming.

It’s almost like I’m saving him the time, trouble and stress of having to try and remember these things himself.

By taking the guesswork out of gift giving, not only am I ensuring that he never misses a special occasion, BUT, I’m showing myself ‘self love’, and that’s really important, because if we fail to show ourselves love then how will others know to treat us the way we would love to be treated.

Now I’m not suggesting that a gift is equivalent to love- I most certainly wouldn’t be inclined to repeatedly accept a bunch of flowers after constant explosive arguments. But sometimes it’s nice to be remembered on special occasions, without having to remind your loved one and without holding one’s breath in anticipation of something which may never eventuate.

But then the kids came along….

I must admit that my hubby would always remember every momentous occasion. Until our children got in the way and distracted his mind!

Suddenly they became his focus and took over his life- which is lovely, really, but I wasn’t completely prepared emotionally for the takeover.

Recently I sent myself a present for Mother’s Day. I knew that the shipping deadlines were coming to a close and my hubby wasn’t responding to the magnificent collages of gift ideas I was sending him- so I did it myself!

I even wrote the card

“My Darling wife Rochelle, I love you more today than I did yesterday, but not as much as I will tomorrow…” I had the store write in the gift card.

It’s something my hubby would NEVER say and will cause him the most amount of discomfort when he hears me reading it out loud to the children- oh, perhaps I forgot to mention- the children don’t know these gifts aren’t from their father.

No, I like to create the illusion for everyone, that I am married to a man that is just THAT loving. It fills their little lives with excitement and romance and it’s not doing them any harm… I mean deep down inside, maybe, my hubby doesn’t regret being married to me… he could possibly even love me… I hope!

But then it backfired…

Here’s where my acts of kindness to myself backfired just before Mother’s Day however… there was a knock at the door and my husband opened it to a delivery man with a beautiful box of roses.

They were absolutely exquisite, and my heart burst with happiness at the sight of them!

This was until my hubby asked me who they are from!

I opened the card to a curiously cryptic message! I had no clue who had sent me this gorgeous gift! And my details were on the box!

Cryptic Card

The card mentioned a getaway ‘no kids no partners- just us. We had so much fun together. It’s a holiday I’ll remember forever’. The timing could not have been more off – considering that I am pregnant… this card had the potential for some hilarious scandal and it was just so amusing to me!

Honestly, if the tables were turned and my husband had received the same card, I would be extremely jealous and somewhat suspicious! Not my hubby though.

No, he thinks I’ve sent these to myself. And my mind was racing trying to work out which one of my friends had a sense of humour that is equally as wicked as mine to think of playing a prank like that.

Mystery Solved

Curiosity got the better of me and so I called Mr. Roses to try and track down who could have been so incredibly thoughtful as to send me flowers. I just had to thank them for making my heart feel like bursting and making me laugh out loud at the card!

Turns out I had WON a competition through the wonderful Mouths of Mums website! I couldn’t believe it, I didn’t even remember entering! The cards must have been mixed up at the florist!

My Mother’s Day has been made, my heart is just so full, and I am deeply grateful to this wonderful company for their kindness!

Thank you Mouths of Mums for always bringing me the greatest joy!

It’s My Little Secret……

Of course, I’m not telling my husband I won these! Oh heavens no! We are in the middle of a series called “The Secrets She Keeps” and this only adds to the excitement of life… besides I don’t understand why he didn’t feel jealous… perhaps I have been overly affectionate towards myself over the years… maybe I need to hold back a little on the romantic cards I send myself…

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62 Comments

- - ChiWren said
  - 30 Jun 2024
    10:24 pm
Hahaha this is hilarious. MoMs brightening up a mums day (and confusing a hubby, love it!)

- - meedee said
  - 14 Sep 2023
    11:31 am
Reminds me of when I was living overseas and i won flowers of a contest on the radio. They were delivered to the house with a beautiful card that read “Happy Valentines day from The One You Love, John Hawksbury”,,,, his catch phrase on his show was ‘The One you Love, John Hawksbury” …. My husband was thrown for a loop….haha…..I delighted in all his questions.

- - mom466291 said
  - 01 Jun 2021
    6:40 am
Haha love it.

- - shanika said
  - 21 May 2021
    1:05 pm
I like every gift he brought me.

- - Number One Mum said
  - 18 May 2021
    10:55 pm
l’m a single mother Good on you for winning a Great prize . Since my Beautiful daughter turned 6 she understands about mother’s Day only because other kids at her school talk about going shopping with there Father to get mum a present for mother’s Day . She saved her pocket money and asked my sister in secret to take her to the shops and surprised me with a Great mother’s Day present & card . l was so shocked on mother’s Day when she gave me my present & card . She kept it so secretive l Really didn’t have a clue about it . It was the best present l have Ever got in my whole life . Now l get one every year from her and she has just turned 8 .

- - tessie said
  - 15 May 2021
    11:38 am
Many years ago my late husband decided we should go to the local hotel for lunch because it was my birthday. I wasn’t really enthusiastic but he really wanted to go so naturally we went. As we were going past our local grocery store he gave me some money and asked me to go ahead and get our drinks. I was sitting at the bar waiting for him when all heads turned to the door and I heard some people gasping. I turned to see what was going on and it was my husband walking in with the most beautiful bouquet of roses. I got very teary because he’d never done anything like that before. Let’s just say that was the best birthday ever. Who knew he could be so romantic.

- - mom460689 said
  - 12 May 2021
    8:23 pm
That is funny. You are so lucky to get the beautiful roses though!

- - ella12 said
  - 12 May 2021
    2:12 pm
It’s always very joyous to receive a surprise.

- - rovermum said
  - 12 May 2021
    11:47 am
OMG! This is hilarious… lucky she investigated. My hubby is the thoughtful one who is known to just give me flowers for nothing, etc. Ohter males don’t love his gestures so much, it puts too much pressure on them.

- - mom322089 said
  - 12 May 2021
    10:30 am
it occasionally good to keep them on their toes and maybe a tid bit of a reminder to put in some effort.

- - BellaB said
  - 11 May 2021
    5:52 pm
I think my husband would just assume they’re from one of my platonic male friends, having a joke.

- - mom467577 said
  - 11 May 2021
    10:09 am
This story is hilarious. My husband would be the same and not seem jealous at all! He spoils me with little things often (e.g. making me coffee while I’m sleeping, taking the baby so I can sleep in).

- - sars_angelchik said
  - 11 May 2021
    9:08 am
How funny that the card got mixed up! I love Mouths of Mums- I’ve been here for around 10 years and gotten more out of it than any other website I’ve ever signed on to. And I love the articles and recipes too!

- - Ellen said
  - 11 May 2021
    7:36 am
What a beautiful surprise price ! Your husband must have died of curiosity from who they came !
- Ellen replied
  
  11 May 2021 , 7:38 am
  And yes, my husband really tries to buy thoughtful gifts
- - mom265671 said
  - 10 May 2021
    11:43 pm
Well done on the win, you deserve it mama!

- - Frankiielot said
  - 10 May 2021
    11:35 pm
Ahahaha that’s funny but also awesome – well done on winning!
This year I got a hermes bracelet but it will be the last luxury gift I’ll receive as we’re now capping presents at $150.
I got this because I’ve wanted one for years and we couldn’t afford it. Hubby cashed out his leave and did a bunch of overtime.

- - mom462805 said
  - 10 May 2021
    10:57 pm
That is so funny, my husband thinks Lotto is a great present because if I won I could have anything I wanted….

- - Mumofboysx4 said
  - 10 May 2021
    10:22 pm
Haha I love this.
I have to give my kids money to go shopping for me and luckily my sister or niece takes them shopping. Joys of being a single mum lol

- - mom160421 said
  - 10 May 2021
    10:16 pm
My husband buys me gifts but not for every occasion, so when he does get me something it’s a surprise.

- - mom176887 said
  - 10 May 2021
    9:02 pm
Thoughtful gift? nope … but I love this idea of sending yourself something special on those occasions that you usually mark like Christmas and birthdays. It’s not a bad idea especially when you both agree that gifts can cost a lot of money and are not always what you want and passing $20 or whatever to each other just doesn’t seem the same.. When you get something for yourself you can enjoy little things that you really need/want. There are no disappointments other than perhaps the other person isn’t a mind reader knowing your latest whim! …. oh and I loved the touch in the story about the gift being from Mouths of Mums! That was a great twist!