All relationships need work and equal commitment from both parties.

I’m not sure I totally agree. I would say I have found more happiness and self confidence in myself over the last 12 months – yet our relationship has progressively got worse. In some ways our communication has increased – although more often than not it ends in arguments.

We always make time for each other. We are each other’s priority and we talk about everything

Needed to hear this right now ????

It’s so easy to fall into a routine and forget spontaneity and how to have fun.

Communication is the key to a great relationship!

I just think the title is a bit crude. It’s not really anything to do with gender.

I agree that we look to our partners to validate our worth within the relationship,

I think there is also a fear with communication.
You never know how the other person will take something you say.
But yes, communication is the key. Sometimes it can be hard if the other person is close minded or feels like they are getting blame, they can often get angry because they can’t see the other person’s point of view. It would be good if both parties were able to see things from the other person’s perspective.

Guilty! Of leg closing, not any affairs, one is more then enough for me I like my sanity too much

It helps if you can also be really good friends outside the bedroom.

Communication is so important and understanding each others ways of communicating

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  • • Mum2archer replied
    • 01 Oct 2020 , 9:57 pm

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  yep. It’s a huge thing in a relationship

My partner’s family never communicates about their problems and never ever shows affection towards each other. I lived with my partner and his family for 4 years and during that time I never ever heard any of them say “I love you” or give each other a hug (not even for birthdays). I grew up in a completely different environment, where communication and affection is valued.
My partner doesn’t want our kids to grow up not knowing how to love someone else or be unable to speak about personal problems. We make a point to open up in front of everyone and to be (PG rated) intimate and loving towards each other.

Communication is absolutely key. Surprisingly, I have many friends who do not communicate with their partner or vice versa. It’s a little bit mind bogggling to me because in my relationship, and during our 30 years of marriage, we communicate a lot, and about all the stuff. I’m a talker, and I’ve made hubby a talker too, even if it’s only to me.

Wow this is not bad I need to show my partner thank you Anne Evelyn some powerful words and I just wanted to add to all you MoMs that have said that this article is putting more of the blame on us Women than the Men ‘Then you ladies need to go back and READ this article to the very END’ and really think about it from both sides (not those men/man that have done yous wrong in the past) just put that aside an ‘really think’ about it cos to me Anne has wrote something that could help alot of couples if they sit and READ it PROPERLY……..
ie ~she not a prophet/writer etc so her article isn’t exactly in order if that makes sense~ lol I dont even no this lady (she could be a he for all I no????) just saying sorry Anne hehehe but just look at it from both a man and woman point of view lol

Probably one of the best articles on this website !
Communicate, communicate and communicate,

A great article to read.

Great article and quite probably the reason marriage succeeds so well is all those who are friends as well as lovers so they do talk through their problems with each other. Such a pit 1/3 of marriages fail, but they are the ones who never got round to taking off the rose-coloured glasses early enough to become friends as well as partners.

Haha. Women have many faults, but men have only two – everything they say, and everything they do. Just saying……????????????

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  • • Ellen replied
    • 19 Sep 2020 , 8:17 am

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  Lol !

Wow! Had no idea about the suggested 5% divorce savings! Never heard that before. We found that letting each other vent, and knowing it’s just a vent is key – particularly during COVID when everyone is stuck together in the same place, under the same challenges. Sometimes venting is all you need, not someone to try and fix it.