A busy mum says her daughter’s daycare teacher has accused her of ‘undermining her authority’, by taking her child home before she’d finished cleaning up.

The mum says her two-year-old has been in home daycare for a few months, and her teacher Sasha is ‘very nice’. However, the pair have clashed over a strict rule, which encourages all of the daycare children to clean up after themselves.

“I am normally all for my daughter cleaning her own messes,” the mum explained.

“However, I find when I arrive, Sasha expects my daughter to finish cleaning up whatever she was playing with. Which again would be fine, but it delays us getting out the door and heading home, sometimes we have plans, etc.

“I started texting Sasha when I was so many minutes away, asking her to get my daughter ready and that seemed to work. My daughter would be in her jacket and reading a book, easy to put away vs a huge Duplo project or similar.”

But the situation came to a head when the mum wasn’t able to let Sasha know she wasn’t far away from picking up her daughter.

“Things were crazy and I was in a rush. We had a lot to do this afternoon and I was running behind because I had car trouble. When I arrived, my daughter and some friends were in the middle of cleaning up a big mess. I told my daughter that we had to go and to get her coat.

“Sasha said she needed to finish cleaning up her part. I said any other day, sure, but I am running late and we cannot miss this appointment. Sasha tried arguing that the kids need to learn responsibility and I flat out said no. I grabbed my daughter, put her coat on and left.

“As I said, hectic afternoon so I only just now had time to check my texts. I had one from Sasha saying poor planning on my part doesn’t mean I can break rules. I pointed out this is not in the contract and I can bring my child home whenever I need want. She accused me of undermining her authority. I was given ‘a verbal warning’ which I found ridiculous.”

The mum now wants to know is she in the wrong. Let us know what you think in the comments below. 

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  • Wow! This woman needs to understand that things happen. Some flexibility would help. Unless the carer thinks it happens more often than the author is willing to admit to.


  • It sounds like they had a good working agreement. Unfortunately things happen and we all need to be flexible. I hope they can work it out for the child’s sake.


  • Life happens. Judgy people sadly also happen!
    I think it could have been phrased better and a verbal warning sounds a bit o.t.t. It has to work for everyone, not just the child care worker. If this is going to be the way forward, you may need to have a word with the centre manager to explain the situation and that the warning sounds unfair and unwarranted.


  • you are paying for a service which you should get . I think you need to have a chat with the teacher and remind her what this means .Your talking about a 2 year old can you tell the difference between the 2 year old and the teacher


  • The teacher could have easily of worked better with the mum to come to an agreement. Especially teaching the kid about flexibility


  • If you frequently took your daughter before she had finished clearing up then she can say something nicely, but I’m sorry mum will always Trump daycare teacher


  • She is teaching the kids to be flexible but at the same time she is ignoring the fact that life is unpredictable and sometimes we do need to leave one thing to do another one and needs to be more flexible rather than being rigid about following the rules.


  • Good for littlies to learn to tidy up, however the day care mum needs to be flexible to a parent’s schedule. You are paying her for a service.


  • I like that they are taught to clean up their mess, but situations do change at times and there should be some give and take in all situations. If you are really peeved over this, then I would be taking the matter higher [or looking for a new day-care].


  • Good thing to teach them to clean up, though I don’t think they it’s mandatory for them to do it at daycare


  • Whilst I understand where your day carer is coming from, she is being ridiculous. If my day carer gave me a formal warning over something like that I’d be like “okay then, I’ll find another day carer.” Family day care is hard though as they aren’t run by the big corporations, it’s just their rules.


  • Being responsible is important, but understanding that life happens, isn’t perfect and being flexible, adaptive and responsive are also important skills!


  • Check the finer details of a a contract and the legality and also discuss with the manager.


  • Take it up with the director.

    • I agree, always go higher up if not satisfied.


  • I agree with kids cleaning up and putting toys away etc. but sometimes that doesn’t work! If it happened frequently I’d be all for the teacher saying something to the parent.


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