As you have said you have the right to refuse any orders and I feel it is very fair that you not make the cake considering all your negative emotions that would be involved.

I would not have made the cake either. Sounds like it was too soon and definitely not water under the bridge.

Some people have some nerves and guts to even ask for it….

omg, I wouldn’t make it either, so stand your ground. They are pretty insensitive for expecting you to make the reveal cake for them.

How can he not understand how it would make her feel? I couldn’t.. WOULDN’T do it!

She was with her right to refuse to make the cake.
Especially after being cheated on and having medical issues.
I wish her all the best with her twins and her business

your totally within your rights to refuse service. How incredibly insensitive of your ex and his new partner to even ask you to do that. That man is not a great person to have treated you in such a way whilst in the position you were in- you can expect that at some time in the future he will repeat what he has done to you with this new partner, leopards never change their spots!

Just wondering, this kind of people really exist huh!! How can you even face her when you have cheated on her? Very sad, she did the right thing by refusing.

I wouldn’t be making it after being treated that way

I think that the ex-husband should have thought more about how she would feel about being put on the spot, especially asking for something so intimate. It would be like waving a red flag at a bull. Hasn’t she suffered enough with his betrayal, and the fact he is having a child with his “Mistress”.
But I guess, I shouldn’t be surprised, as he would not have thought about her feelings when having the affair in the first place!!

This is an example of gaslighting by the ex husband. She is completely valid in feeling the way she does and can make decisions for herself.

I think it’s totally reasonable to want to keep your professional life away from your personal life, especially when your ex cheated

Looks like she was trying to reach out to you but in a extremely strange way and way too soon I’d of just done the same really she shouldn’t ask you to do things for her especially try and be a customer.

Not unprofessional at all. I would be refusing to make this one too.

I don’t think you’re unprofessional at all. My mind is blown that either of them would think it was okay to ask you to. How insensitive and disrespectful. Wow, I hope their parenting skills will be better, but considering what he did… well it leaves you wondering.

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  Yes I think it’s not very sensible or respectful either…it’s super inconsiderate !

I wouldn’t expect that you would want to make this cake. Let them order one elsewhere.

Unprofessional yes, but on a personal level I completely understand why she refused. I think it would be hurtful and in this type of situation she has the rights to refuse.

I don’t think he had the right to ring and call her unprofessional. The only one in the wrong is her stupid jerk ex-husband. I think he was insensitive to even think about asking her to make it in the first place.

You are more than entitled to refuse to make the cake. Your twins are only 1 year old, much too soon to be emotionally blackmailed into changing your mind. I see all the comments about doing the wrong gender or adding extra ingredients, but seriously, don’t lower yourself to the level of your ex. He more than anyone else does not deserve any attention or to feel superior in any circumstance. You will flourish much better without him and it’s up to him to look after his new partner and her wishes.

No way would I make the cake. What were they thinking. How insensitive.