Honestly, I’m totally on board with all of this. Number 7 is a bit meh – if you haven’t had contact with friends or family for 9 months that’s really not required. But I had all these rules in my chamber.

alot of rules. Poor baby

Interesting list!

i don’t see anything rude with her requests. i have been a midwife and we conduct Grandparents classes for first time grandparents. This is very accepted by the families. At the Antenatal classes we do encourage the new parents to restrict visitors during the first 2 weeks at home. It is the bonding time and for the Parents to enjoy their new baby and to learn the baby’s cues. This was very accepted by the parents in the class. Also the new mum may have a rough and long delivery process and needs her time to recover. These days new mums do not have the luxury of long stay in hospital. Everyone visitors should respect the parnet’s requests.

The list isn’t really that bad. I will say though I don’t know what people’s big deal is about kissing babies. What’s the issue if they’re family? Also, I think grandparents have a right to at least have a short visit- they’re excited too.

I actually don’t think there’s anything unreasonable about this list at all…………

Literally nothing wrong with these rules, they are all very true and should be the unsaid rules of a newborn anyways, sad we have to actually say this to people but everyone is all about baby baby baby and don’t care about the mum

Honestly, there is nothing wrong with her rules. I can understand about thr annoucement & posting photos as that is the parents joy. My mum took that joy away from me with my 1st born which caused my brother to have rules with the birth of his children. Funny enough, they rules are so much a like.
Its fair enough that if people do care, they should show it through your pregnancy instead of waiting for thr baby to come along.
Unannouced visitors I can relate too cause that was frustrating after a sleepless night. And not to have people around for the first few days, thats a good thing, especially if you have a traumatic labour (like I did). You dont want to be bombarded by people.
At the end of the day, this Mum ia doing whats best for herelf, partner and baby. Not selfish, not self centered and not ignorant either. If I had my time again, I would of done the same. Best of luck to this Mum. And good on her for doing whats best.

These all seem like reasonable and common sense rules and it’s also not unusual nowadays.

I was expecting to see really crazy requests. These seem to be average type requests. I didn’t have any requests for anyone for when my teenager was born.

I was thinking these are okay until I got to 7. That one seems a tad self centred. In the world we live in I hardly see or speak to many of my friends and family for days or weeks as everyone is so busy, it’s not one sided so I wouldn’t expect that everyone I know has checked on me while I was pregnant!!

Their baby their choice! If people don’t want to accept this families rules then it’s a reflection of the visitor.
I think it’s a bit hard to ask people not to announce the baby’s arrival in person, as people should be allowed to talk and I don’t think you can tell everyone yourself, but each to their own.

If you don’t have confidence with people surrounding you then you should keep your rules! Unless you relationship is good with them! That’s an opinion

This woman would get along great with my paranoid daughter. When are people going to wake up and realise we live in a germ-filled world? I am glad I never carried on like that with my children and people. Otherwise, no one would have come and visited me and them. Wake up to your self my dear and live. Don’t worry about your baby, they will be just fine. There is more to be concerned about in this world than the lists of 8 silly requests you have outlined. As I said, I should introduce you to my daughter, you would both get along like a house on fire. Pathetic.

I don’t think these rules are actually that bad to be honest.

I never wrote any rules with my kids but thinking back, I wish I did!

To be honest, with the current pandemic. I do not blame this first time Mama for feeling this way, and turning those feelings into actions. She’s just doing what Mama Bear’s do and that is protect our babies at all costs. For me, I see where she is coming from and her anxiety etc so I respect her wishes.

As a first time Mum she is probably quite nervous. All of these ‘rules’ sound completely okay- if that is what she wants.

Very fair rules i think

These are quite good, though 7 is a bit too much haha