An update appeared on BORU, and it’s positive. She has left her husband! OP and her child are staying with her parents. The husband did try to physically stop her from leaving but her mother prevented anything from happening. They are safe. She also had scans to ensure everything passed as a result of the loss. Hopefully her wishes of full custody are granted and they have a happy life. I was happy reading this.

You have got to be kidding me. As if this person isn’t a complete narcissist and abuser. This isn’t immaturity, it is dead set cruel and not acceptable. I’m surprised the poor woman managed to marry this man and have a child already… He seems absolutely cold. I sincerely wish this Mamma all the best in her lifetime.

Yes I find he sounds very immature as well. You could nearly call him childish with his pouting behaviour. Where is his support and understanding to his wife in these difficult circumstances ? All she needs right now is physical and emotional support. The total lack thereof is certainly driving a wedge between them

He sounds like he’s being very selfish and immature. The marriage vows are in sickness and health. He needs to take care of you! The fact that he still expected you to make him dinner is beyond the pale! He should have brought you dinner in bed. Birthdays aren’t important, you can have a special day any time. He needed to be supporting you.

A miscarriage is absolutely devastating and a huge amount of emotional support and hands on physical care and an abundance of meaningful love and respect is needed at such a tragic time. Birthdays come and go and celebrations can be postponed and the priority is the current and devastating loss for the couple.

I feel very sorry for this woman and her husband on the loss of their child and for her physical and emotional pain. I would not contemplate divorce now but would really want to find out why her husband was being so unkind to her. If she can get to the heart of what made him react this way, it would give her more clarity as to whether he is someone she can rely on in future.

Did your husband think you lost the baby on purpose? I had multiple miscarriages but my husband never blamed me or treated me like dirt over it. He was very supportive especially when I lost my last one at 12 weeks. I know he was suffering as well but never once was I made to feel like it was my fault and he never shut me out. Your husband is the asshole and so is your MIL for treating you the way she did. I hope you can get things sorted with your husband one way or the other. Take care of yourself and your son first. I can’t believe your husband thought getting beer was more important than you either.

I have experienced a miscarriage as well and it is something that both loving parents need to address together. This uncaring, selfish and heartless man is disgraceful to say the least and YES red flags are waving here. ❌

I don’t think it’s nuts to be considering divorce, however there is so much more to a relationship than one situation. I think she needs to take some time to heal herself and when husband is ready to talk then maybe they need to try marriage counselling or something as his reaction is not appropriate, however people deal with loss differently.

Aw bless, what a tough situation ! You would expect as a couple to walk this path of grieving together, but the opposite is true in this case. The lack of empathy of your husband, the fact he says it ruined his birthday and the fact he’s guilt tripping you for not making his favourite dinner on his birth day is shocking. I would suggest to go for marriage counseling and when he’s not willing or it doesn’t bring you closer then divorce may be the best.

I’d be divorcing. What a cold heart! If that is his way of dealing with your shared loss I’d be running fast and far! You did not choose to have a miscarriage. So what it happened on his birthday – is he 6 years old? He should have been comforting you.

Sorry but what a heartless, selfish and in my opinion a awful husband. Having gone through a miscarriage with my daughter and sitting with her for nearly 24 hours whilst she suffered the loss of her unborn was so devastating and a traumatic experience. A person needs unconditional love and support throughout the whole devastating process.

This is heartbreaking to read. Not only for what OP had to go through while feeling so alone and helpless, but what happened to the toddler when they were taken to the emergency department? Did they come alone with their mum? I really hope she can reassess her situation. Why be with someone if they can’t support you at your most vulnerable. Making out that birthdays are a sacred thing is childish and gross here.

Im sorry but the way he is acting would be enough for me. Major Alarm bells. I would want to be out the door asap. Sadly he is not a Man but still a spoilt child who thinks the World revolves around him. I see no love for you in the way he is acting. Move on and find a real Man.

I am so shocked that anyone would even considering acting this way after what this mum went through. This man is very selfish and to act like a spoilt child and the way he did after everything she went through is disgusting and totally unacceptable. I feel for this mum, I don’t know if I could be with someone who acts this way over something that could be postponed for another day so he could help his wife.

My heart goes out to this mum. There is nothing easy about this situation and the lack of support and selfishness displayed by her partner is not acceptable. I agree with the other comments below suggesting marriage counselling.

Aw bless, what a tough situation ! It’s true that you both went through a loss and we all grief in a different way. However as a couple you would expect to walk this road together and the opposite seems to be the case here. His lack of compassion, blame that the miscarriage ruined his birthday and guilt tripping you for not making his favourite dinner on his birthday is out of line and hurtful. I would suggest marriage counseling too as this incident is damaging your relationship.

That is seriously alarming and the fact he is acting out that way – as if you had meant to ruin his birthday. But obviously you have both gone through a loss and this is something that should be spoken about. Im sorry you went through that – its heartbreaking to know

Nope definitely NOT an asshole he is a disgrace and that’s definately putting it nicely.. I would honestly expect more compassion from a 3 year old. If this is how he behaves towards you in a situation like this i can only imagine he never treats you with any respect. I’d be out the door already..

If your husband treats you like that because he had a hissy fit about you not making his favourite dinner while you were incapacitated, he needs to go see someone. The anger he is showing and the guilt trip he is putting on you is unacceptable. Either go to a therapist without him first to validate that it’s not your fault or try and go together so you can find out what the real cause is. If he is unwilling to go and see anyone, seriously contemplate divorcing him because he has some issues that he will always take it out on you. God Luck