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A first-time-mum has revealed the list of eight rules she expects her family and friends to follow when they visit her newborn baby, and while most are commonsense, a couple have ruffled some feathers.

Maisie Crompton is expecting her first baby, so she decided to share the list of rules she has for those planning on meeting her little one after she’s given birth.

While most of the rules are pretty much to be expected, like not visiting if you’re sick, there are a couple that raised a few eyebrows after she shared them on TikTok.

Here are Maisie’s rules:

  1. Please don’t kiss the baby.
  2. No unannounced visitors, for first few days we want it just to be us
  3. Don’t announce our baby has arrived until we do (on social media or in person)
  4. No photos posted of the baby until we do.
  5. Do not come if you’re sick.
  6. Wash your hands before holding them.
  7. Do not ask to see the baby if you haven’t checked up on me during the pregnancy.
  8. If our baby cries please hand them back to me or their dad.

One person commented: “Great, but people might be scared to come near/see the baby eventually so you will miss out on memories made and baby bonding with wider family.”

“We had a family member do this with loads of rules, like you must come and do some chores etc. weirdly enough no one wants to baby sit their three-year-old,” replied another.

However, most of the comments were supportive, but there were plenty of expecting mums wondering how they could tactfully relay similar rules to their friends and family.

“A lot of people said they’d feel awkward giving their family and friends a list of rules to stick by, so this is how I actually intend on doing it.” Maisie explained, before sharing the following message that she’s sending to her family and friends:

“We would love you to come over and meet baby girl soon, you’ll have to let us know when you’re free. Just a quick one (we’re sending this to everyone who would love to visit us). Although she’s so cute please don’t kiss her due to risks like HSV and other illnesses. If you feel ill we would love you to visit another time instead and of course you can take as many photos as you like but please don’t post them without asking first.”

“If you usually smoke/have smoked in the past hours before meeting her please change your top before holding her.”

Did you have a set of rules for visitors when you had your baby? Let us know what they were in the comments below. 

  • I understand some of the rules due to the pandemic amd of course therea no debating on babys health. but the thing on social media is a bit confusing or funny, i think. Goodluck implemwnting those rules.

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  • I don’t think any of those requests are unreasonable. Good on her for putting her baby’s health and well-being first!

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  • Absolutely reasonable and nothing wrong with it!

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  • I honestly don’t see an issue with any of her rules!
    One of my rules is no visitors in the first week. Birth is traumatic for the body and we need time to recover, get to know ourselves and our new babies. Plus that time should be spent bonding with siblings, if they have any.
    And honestly there’s been a huge difference in my recovery time post birth from having house guests to no visitors. I definitely heal much quicker without people around!
    So basically rules need to be in place to suit the individual and if people aren’t too happy with those rules they can wait to visit!

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  • I totally agree with all of her requests including number 7
    I have a friend that didn’t allow visitors until after baby had 1st vaccination, it gives a lot of time to for mum, dad and baby to bond

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  • I think the message is a lot softer being relayed than having those rules…
    People might read them and not want to visit for fear of doing something wrong and getting told off.

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  • To be honest these are great rules! I agree with all of them and they definitely need to be put in place. Yes and agree!!!

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  • I think all these rules are reasonable, my rules were also the same.

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  • I see nothing wrong with her rules??? I was very pedantic in my 1st pregnancy.

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  • These rules are a little more reasonable than one I saw in another article. I’m not sure that I agree with 7

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  • All these rules seem reasonable to me and I am doing same with my new born

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  • I actually don’t find those unreasonable. Although I assume number 7 is aimed at some particular people.

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  • Its your child, so you should be able to do what you want.

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  • You cant blame her with Covid still with us

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  • Perfectly reasonable rules with a newborn!

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  • I didn’t have any rules when I had my twins. But some people are just rude. I wish I had some rules. I’m not having any more babies but I’d definitely would do it differently. Good on her sticking to her rules.

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