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I have been with my man for 15 years now and we have two beautiful kids together. We have done everything ‘the wrong way around’ as to the opinions of some people! We moved out together, we got a dog together, then the two kids. We haven’t married yet as we feel that we already are and when we can afford it and kids are old enough to walk down the aisle together well we will wait til the time is right! We don’t beleive in being engaged for a few years before marriage, we rather get engaged then not long after get married and go on a honeymoon! Its unbelievable some looks in people eyes and there reaction when they already assumed your married. I have been copping the ‘omg your not married?’ And ‘I assumed you were married’ , then there is one of my aunties that look down on me because I have children out of wedlock! Its amazing how people assume things and think there is a right way to do something. I know my day will come and I look forward to my whole family being part of the ceremony and celebrations. But in the meantime we are a happy loving family who are happy with the way things are! Marriage or not!!!


Posted by tanya goulding, 11th September 2013


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  • You sound very happy with your situation, and that’s all that matters. Many people don’t find that happiness, even in a marriage

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  • The main thing is you guys are happy and that’s all that matters! I am married but would never look down on someone who isn’t & I’m sorry that people have with you :(

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  • thats actually so true…do what keeps u happy… if u guys are family…U R !!

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  • wonderful

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  • Good on you for doing what you want, it is doesn’t matter what other people think or say as long as you and your family is happy.

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  • Family is family commitment is commitment

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  • Marriage or not you are still committed and still a family.

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  • its doesnt matter if your married as long as your happy

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  • According to the law, your in a marriage like relationship and if you were to split, you sould have all of the same rights as a married couple. AND if you dont feel the need to go and get that “peice of paper”, dont! I knew what I wanted and it sounds like you do too. Dont worry about the oldies! Worry about your family xx

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  • Thank you so much mums! Its nice to know I’m not the only one and had to vent as been getting the comments lately so thank you for re assuring me that we are happy and that’s what matters!!

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  • I dont think there is a right way anymore. Its yor life live it how you choose just remember to enjoy it

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  • Yep me and my partner did everything backwards but we are happy that’s all that really matters, wish your family all the happiness in the world

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  • I have 3 children & never married. It’s a personal choice & like you I have the older generation look down at me. As long S you’re happy together & it seems you are then that’s what matters hun :)

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