hi everyone

ever gone nuts at your child and said to them i wish you were like your sister?

i have lots.
sometimes i think we need to sit back and think to ourselves shes not her sister all kids are different.

lots of mothers these days like to put one child up against each other and say this child walked at so many months why isnt mine?
or my son crawled at 6 months old.

my advice children will do things in their own time. Their is no time frame to get things done when you are a child.
sometimes they might get sick or have a grwoth spurt and then the talking or walking takes a back seat and then they have to learn it again or continue where they left off.

try not to compare your children too much with other children, just try and relax and enjoy your children and tr and think to yourself all children are different and will do things when they can and able to.

some children are outgoing and talk a lot, some are shy and like to keep to themselves, each child is different and learns at their own pace.

just because little sam up the street is walking doesnt mean your child should be.
They will do it when they can and are able to and ready to.

i have had 3 children, all girls. one 8 years old almost 9 and one 7 and old 20 months old.

the first child walked at 9 months old.
2nd child at 13 months old.
3rd child at 14 months old.

children all do things at different ages and when they feel ready to.

Posted anonymously, 24th August 2015

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  • It isn’t only parents that do it. Some teachers do too. My brother and I had some of the same teachers..and years later expected us to be at the same stages and personality. I wish some teachers had short memories in that respect. I must say we are not alike except in good manners and showing respect to others – especially adults. One teacher couldn’t tell my Mum or the School Principal what my brother was supposed to have done wrong, said he wasn’t as good at school work as me…..and he was just annoying, then stormed out of the office. the Principal was very embarrassed and said he was going to have a strong discussion with the teacher later. (I would have loved to be a fly on the wall…..as they saying goes).


  • I’m guilty of doing this … I have three also and all very different .. In looks personalities and academic abilities .., I have learnt to treat them slightly different to compensate this .. With out letting them know so .. I’ve stopped comparing as it’s simply not fair .. And can cause jealously between siblings as this has happened in within my own siblings .. As mum and dad would often compare .. So it’s not a good idea no matter how harmless you think it is

    • oh yeah definately! very well said!
      each child is different so you need to parent accordingly :)


  • Yes they are all individuals! Thanks so much for sharing this!


  • Yep I probably compare my kids too much especially with milestones but have to remember the are completely different people and will do everything in their own time!


  • yep all kids are different and that is fine :)


  • I might not say it to my kids but do think it my first child had selective mutism and dint talk to any outside the house at all until after starting prep, my next daughter you could have huge converstations with by the age of two and a half. Now my third child who is three rarely talks and i can not help but wish he was like his siter was talking heaps. Not complainig but all the speech theropy apponitments with the two boys are doing my head in.


  • I think there a huge pressures to compare your children to others and I don’t like it.
    They are all different and progress at different times


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