I want to address a topic in my story about c- sections and how people view them and the woman who have had them. I always seem to come across things like too posh to push or did you really give birth though? And honestly it upsets me.
I am one of the many woman who had to have a c section , my son was breech and my hospital didn’t do natural breech births.
Now this is/ was my first baby so I just assumed that it would be natural and a c section never even crossed my mind I just assumed it was for emegancies, so when I found out I had to have one I was quite devastated that I wouldn’t be able to go in to labour and have that experience and I was scared , very scared in fact of having a major surgery.
After my whole experience I feel like I am a braver person for it bearing in mind I nearly had a panic attack while mid c section, but I feel proud.
So down to why I’m here, my husband would say to me just as a joke , but you didn’t really give birth did you , and it started to upset me , then I came across and article I can’t remember what it was called it was just on Facebook but in it was a woman condeming other woman for having c sections saying they didn’t actually give birth they where lazy and too posh to push and what would they know about the pain of childbirth.
So if you haven’t had ac section or don’t know anyone who has this is where you learn a little something, yes you don’t have the initial birthing pains while pushing out the baby but once the baby is out and your feeling in your legs have come back you have to sit up wich is excruciating then you have to try and stand wich is very difficult and you have to try and change you baby’s nappy and feed them but you can’t walk or bend or sit without being in extreme pain, you can’t sit in a car , lie down, stand still with out pain , pretty much you can’t do anything for the first two weeks but then for the first 6 weeks you can’t lift anything heavier than your baby.
So did I really give birth when I was cut open and had my son pulled from my stomach, did I really give birth when I couldn’t stand to change my baby’s first nappy or sit properly to give my baby his first feed, and did I really not give birth when I was crying with frustration to not be able to bend an pick my newborn son up properly.
You tell me.
Posted by Danii.c, 12th October 2015