I’m not like most happily married mothers. My 9 year old son is the product of a very short liaison, a relationship that I ended before realising I was pregnant. However, his father wanted to be involved, so kudos to him for that, despite living interstate he drives eight hours and back once a month to have a weekend with our son. My relationship with my son’s dad is for the most part civil, but now and then it skids out of control. We disagree on a great many things but usually try to work them out, and actually I had felt quite proud of myself for maintaining that civil relationship and friendly changeovers. But last month, at changeover, his father showed up with his new girlfriend in the car and proceeded to provoke an argument with me, in my opinion trying to show off and be the big man and show me to be ‘that crazy woman’ or however he’d described me to her. Anyway, he managed to upset me so much (mainly because he then said he wouldn’t return our son 2 hours early, as we’d agreed weeks before, so we could catch a train to our holiday destination) that I lost my temper at him, and then he got out his phone and told me he was filming me for ‘evidence’. I’m not sure if you know this type of person: they say something requiring you to defend yourself but then loudly and nastily talk over you so you raise your voice to be heard and get really upset and then it looks like you’re the emotional wreck. I’m embarrassed and humiliated that he reduced me to a screaming fishwife in front of our son and afterward felt awful the whole weekend because I knew this was not good for my son to witness. Sometimes some people just really push your buttons, don’t they? Anyway I’m hoping to be able to control myself better next weekend…

Posted by gigi, 21st July 2013

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  • Sounds like a right piece of work.


  • what a jerk good luck love


  • Good luck to you, he sounds like a real jerk. He must care for your son though, so just remember you are the bigger person and you want the best for your son. Don’t worry if he behaves like a jerk, your doing the right thing for your son, so good on you!


  • wow, i can imagine that would be very difficult to deal with. goodluck


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