When you have a child with someone sometimes you just don’t survive as a couple.That’s something i learnt very early on with my first child. I met an amazing man ,who stepped up and stepped in he’s been with us from when bub was 5 months old. We’re now happily married and we also co-parent not with my daughters biological father but his mother,it was inevitable she would meet her real father. What was shocking was that they introduced this absolute dead beat to my baby as her real father at the age of 3. It’s the truth ,but it wasn’t a concern back then because she just didn’t understand. She’s had nothing to do with him over the years ,but now age 6 my little girl absolutely broke my heart. This morning she turned to me and said “mumma ,sometimes my brain gets jumbled and i can’t remember which one is my real daddy and whose my step dad, daddy that lives with us is my real dad isn’t he” how do you respond to that, like did i go wrong somewhere, how do you explain to a child that biologically they are a part of someone else but when it comes down to it just doesn’t matter,what matters is it’s whose stayed with them all night when they had nightmares,and gone to every concert, sports day and awards show, who throws a ball in the back yard and taught them to ride a bike.
Posted by Shannen, 8th July 2017