I have an 18 month old son, and so have a cupboard full of all sorts of baby items and clothing that are no longer being used. Anyway, I have friends who have had babies after me, and they have borrowed lots of things from us, and also I have given stuff away to them. I never ask for any thing in return, not that it’s offered anyway. But I have realised lately that these ‘friends’ tend to come to me first now to see what I have, before buying things for themselves. While I don’t mind lending certain items, I find that when it comes to myself needing anything, no one puts up their hand to help. I see them saving so much money by borrowing things from us, that we spent lot’s of money on, and then they are able to afford luxuries for themselves, etc. My little family is struggling financially at the moment, and this has really started to get me down. I am an admitted people-pleaser who tries hard to avoid confrontation…but how do I approach this? I love to help people out, and hate seeing people waste money on big ticket baby items, but they are all benefiting from us, and we are not getting ahead, or being offered any help from anyone in return.
Posted by mum2nim, 26th April 2013