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We recently moved away from our friends and family in order to save some money. We moved to a beautiful area with a great local school, but I’m feeling increasingly isolated. My main focus has been on getting the children settled and making friends up until now, but I work for myself and my husband travels for work, so I often go for days without any other adult interaction.

I have tried to juggle work so that I can volunteer once a week at school and I’ve joined a local produce cooperative, but people generally keep themselves to themselves around here and I’m finding it hard to ‘break in’ to their inner circles.

I’ve even enrolled my children in every extra-curricula activity I can think of so that we can be a part of the community, but again, everyone has their little groups and although they’re friendly enough, they look a little put out when I approach to have a chat.

I’m not sure what else I can do. I can’t join any playgroups without taking my daughter out of daycare and losing money. It’s been 4 months and I still have no names on the forms with “In case of emergency contact…..”. My biggest fear is that if I had a car accident or medical emergency, nobody would be there to look after my children except the daycare teachers. Am I missing something?


Posted anonymously, 5th April 2014


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  • moved to a beutiful area

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  • feeling isolated feeling

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  • I feel isolated all the time. No job. No license. No friends. No family. No life basically. Exactly how I like it :) want change, make it happen

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  • feeling

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  • feeling isolated

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  • I’m sure that with time, things will change and become easier. If they don’t, MAKE IT HAPPEN!!

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  • great to read

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  • stories are great

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  • Treat yourself as a tourist. That way you can choose what you want to do and have fun. Check out any community centres too. They sometimes have creches and craft groups

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  • Oh I hope things improve for you! We had to weigh up this situation just recently and even though we are now spending more money and not saving as much we are a lot happier because we have that communication and other contacts,

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  • It can be so hard making new friends. Don’t give up, keep trying maybe try and schedule some play dates for more one on one time with the parents.

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  • Hello lovely ladies – I am ‘anonymous’ in this post and I’d just like to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for all your supportive comments. I really needed it this week and you’ve restored my faith in people’s ‘goodness’.

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  • I would just keep talking to people,soon they will warm up to you, maybe they think your just there for a little while so havent bothered to get to know you. good luck I hope it works out for you

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  • It sounds like you are trying your best & its still early days yet. I ask my kids who they like to play with & then use that as lead into a play date & a coffee.

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  • I feel for you, it is really difficult these days to make strong friendships, I dont live in an isolated area but have found it hard myself to make close friends over the years most people already have there close groups. I am not sure where you live but if you are interested in a friend online for support and just general friendship let me know. Its good that you are trying to be part of the community hopefully you will come across some nice people soon.

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  • I know how you feel about the emergency contacts lists. All my family are interstate. Even though I live in a large town/city even they tend to be interconnected. It can take a very long time to establish friendships, especially if you are working. Hang in there. I came from a very tiny town and the locals do come around eventually.

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  • I can understand we moved from the city to the country and there is a school bus in the morning and afternoon but that’s it. I am a people person so when I went to the local shop I would chat to people and I went and introduced myself the the lady next door once the built their house and moved in as well as any one my kids wanted to come and play I had to meet their parents now many years later my name is well known even to those I have not met before. It takes time that sometimes feels like forever as that’s how I felt as Hubby at the time worked 7 days a week and 17hr hour shifts at time and had to travel back to the city so I would sit here at times and go nuts as my at the time kids started year 2 and year 6. A the school I found they had alot of real clicks so I gave up on alot of them lol

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  • I feel your frustration, I myself have moved to an isolated area 6 months ago too. I don’t have anyone, my children are grown with families of their own in the city, so visits are very limited. I have been to the city once, a month after I left.
    It’s hard to adapt and transition to this way of life, it’s a totally different environment.
    Maybe go online, search for local groups in the area, join them, I have found a few and even talking via the web has helped keep my sanity.
    I know it’s not a miracle answer, but it’s a start!!
    The locals will come around, it just takes time, hang in there ♡

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