Best advice, just relax and try and enjoy your birth and enjoy holding your new baby. Sometimes during the birth process we can’t control everything and you know what ? That’s okay, that’s what midwives are for, so let them worry for you, it’s their job to care for you (and it’s what they love to do). Every birth is different just as every baby and every mum is different. Give up control, trust your body and trust your midwives. Good luck

Don’t get railroaded into something you don’t want and don’t be afraid to say no to visitors.

If i could have any of my 4th births again i would just make sure i kept all my options open and wish i hadnt got so hung up on the birth plan as sometimes things dont go to plan.
The first week home just remember to rest as much as you can and if you dont want visitors then dont be scared to say no.

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  • • Mrsjharding replied
    • 24 Sep 2014 , 9:00 am

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  Thank you so much..
  I’m not too worried about the birth plan really, it’s not going to be something i’ll be focusing on other then ensuring the Dr or Midwife knows I want my Hubby to announce the gender to me, not the Dr.

Wow so exciting! And don’t stress too much: It’s completely normal! I was anxious before each and every pregnancy (I am now a proud Mummy to three beautiful children), but was able to reassure myself that being anxious just means I cared. Probably the best advice I would have is to not be afraid to ask for help, or to accept help when it’s offered. It is not a sign of weakness, it is quite the opposite: it is a sign that you are smart enough to do whatever is needed to ensure the health, happiness and well-being of both you and bubs. I was reluctant to accept help at first (I wanted to prove that I could do it all myself), but soon realised that if I accepted help when it was offered, I had more energy to spend on my family, as well as myself.

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  • • Mrsjharding replied
    • 23 Sep 2014 , 7:59 am

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  Thank you so much ! I am definitely the type of person who tries to do things on my own rather then asking for help – so i’ll definitely keep this in mind when bubba does arrives

Don’t get too attached to your birth plan; things won’t necessarily go wrong, but probably won’t go as planned either. First week at home: be brave enough to tell people to leave you alone for a few days if you need it!

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  • • Mrsjharding replied
    • 23 Sep 2014 , 8:00 am

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  Great advise, thank you !
  i’ll be sure to keep that in mind – Especially the visitors part haha

I was so nervous/scared/anxious with my pregnancy too – the best advise I received about birth was from my mum – she said no matter what your fear about the birth, whether its the babies (i had twins) coming out or people seeing your “bits” just remember the staff have experienced it all before you are not the first and you wont be the last to give birth. There is nothing you cannot handle; you will find strength from a place you never even knew existed. I really hung onto that. I ended up having a c-section though because my girls were laying transverse and were too big to turn around. Enjoy the time you have now with your partner and go away for the weekend – we did and it was awesome, great to relax before the big day! Spend some time on you too, go have a pregnancy massage! Just dont stress about it, its all going to go so fast, you wont even remember feeling so these jitters in a few months! Good luck with it all! x

Feeling nervous for a first time Mum is normal! Just enjoy the journey, you will get advice from the midwives & staff in hospital but you go with what you feel comfortable with also. Hope everything goes smoothly for you & you will be cuddling your precious little baby real soon.

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  • • Mrsjharding replied
    • 25 Sep 2014 , 8:13 am

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  Thank you so much