A message to all of the beautiful mums and mums-to-be
It is common not to connect with your child the moment they are born; it takes time
and doesn’t make you a bad mum! Be assured that given time you will start bonding
with your baby and things will fall into place.
One of the biggest lessons I have learnt in having my first child, is to avoid judging other parents. Every parent is doing their best and what they appreciate more than an
opinion, is a friendly smile and offers for help.
Remember this Mantra – You know your baby better than anyone else on this planet.
Just go with your instincts; don’t feel you have to take every piece of advice you are
given (there will be many!)
As a mother, feeding your baby may be overwhelming at first, but it is a part of your
new routine that you will hopefully learn to love. This is a time to connect and feel
close to your baby and it won’t last forever so enjoy it while you can!
One day you will likely ponder over whether it was worth leaving work to raise a child.
You might miss feeling independent and working in the field of your choice. You may
be at the peak of your career, but I can promise that the time spent with your baby will
be more valuable than anything else in the world.
There may be times when you miss being yourself, yet at the same time feel guilty
when leaving your child at day care. All of these feelings are normal, and you will continue to juggle these thoughts, trust me.
It is normal to not feel good about yourself and your physical appearance during and
after pregnancy. Do not worry about pressure you may experience from others about
what you should look like, focus on your health and happiness and you will feel great.
Most importantly, know that postpartum depression is common. You may find yourself
filled with seemingly countless emotions and if sadness feels overpowering, remember
it is ok to seek advice and help. Maintaining a healthy diet, exercise and taking time for
yourself will help to rejuvenate you in what is one of the craziest but most wonderful
times in your life.
Don’t underestimate yourself! You do enough. You are doing a great job and you are
not alone. Just take one day at a time and stay positive. Run, Walk, Book a spa, Get you
nails done, take a bubble bath… make time to do whatever it takes to keep you happy.
Posted by mom462135, 5th January 2021