Your husband wants to quit his job, because he doesn’t like it. A job you don’t like can be draining and demotivating indeed. But does it mean he doesn’t want to work ?? he could apply for another job, try something completely different or start a study ? He could even apply before he quits. When you say you’re happy to go back full-time, is that because of this situation or did you dream about doing that anyway ? Lots of things to think and talk about together, also when you do want to swap roles indeed.

I feel the first step is to talk and work out a plan.
Does he want to be a stay at home dad?
or does he just want another job (one that appeals to him more)?
If he would prefer to stay home indefinitely, he needs to step up to the plate and take over the role you had.
There is a lot of talking, planning , scheduling : COMMUNICATING that needs to be done and I wish you and your family all the best.

Maybe see if he’ll look after the kids (and you know what I mean, really look after the kids) for a few days and see if he’s happy to do it before quitting his job. Most people would rather not work but have to do it to pay the bills. If you can swap out to FT work then that will make it easier for your family. I hope it all works out whatever you all decide to do.

He’ll want to go back to work after a couple of weeks lol

I think you’re right in asking him to do weekend work and he needs to realise during the week he needs to look after the kids and the home. Its not a holiday!

I wonder if a possible first step is for husband to go part-time, while you continue as you are? or upgrade slightly? While there will be loss of money it might give him enough breathing space to get a better work-life balance. I think it is a rare person who doesn’t eventually find work a chore, especially when it is unrelenting day after day. It would also give him a chance to see if looking after the kids was going to work for you all before drastically changing things. If part-time isn’t an option maybe doctor can approve some sort of sick-leave spread out over time to help give him a shorter work week while you both take stock of where you are at.

Depression surely doesn’t help in this situation. Does your husband see any counselor? He needs to find a new purpose in his life, find a job that suits him better. Don’t be harsh on him. It’s not easy at all. 🙁

Good luck to you and your family,there is no point being in a job you hate,hopefully he find another job he likes.

MY hubby is the same and always makes the same comments, although i am with out work at the moment. But when i do go out i come home to a house that is a pigsty. So i have told him till he can prove himself it will not happen(me getting a job ever) He has to do his bit. So i do not do it all. It is just not fair…. They do have to prove themselves before you take that step….

thanks guys, yeah its hard as he’s depressed at the moment so gets stressed with the kids… things complicated. your right we need to talk…. tell him that

My husband wanted to do this, and I said it was ok as long as he could tell me exactly what he planned to do instead. I think you need a plan or goal to make it work.

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 23 May 2016 , 6:41 pm

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  I agree – a plan/goal is a great idea and then everyone is on the same page.

I can see him being exactly as you say, DVDs and games all day for them! You’ll come home and have to clean up after them. You never know until you give it a go tho. Good luck

Give him a chance. If he finds staying home with the kids too hard, maybe that will be the motivation he needs to look sooner for a better job. 🙂

I hope it all works out for you.
Maybe you need to discuss expectations before he quits

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  • • mom93821 replied
    • 24 May 2016 , 5:51 am

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  Write the expectations and goals down too as everyone will know what is expected/agreed.