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This is my true story I would like to tell you it comes from my hearts and how I felt, I was married in 1992 and was very happy with my husband at that time it didn’t last for very long unfortunately because I really wanted to have children and my husband at the time never wanted to have children however he never told me this before we got married, I thought I would be married to this one man the rest of my life at least that’s what I had hoped for The problems began when I confronted him about having children as I never knew that i could not have children until several years down the track, as my husband at the time really did not want to have any children at all , sure he said we would try to have only one Child because I was so naive at the time I believed he meant this from his heart , we tried for several years I even went on the IVF program, nothing worked for me on that program so I decided to give up on havering a Child ,and go back to work four years later I became pregnant with my very first child I was told by my doctor that I had to have nine months bedrest otherwise I would not carry him to term, it feels like it was yesterday when I remembered it as I was so so very sick, I managed to make it to 43 weeks only because the doctor said I could have a natural birth, which wasn’t the case at all I have 19 hours labour and only die elated two centimetres in all that time, The reason I say my ex was a clayton’s husband is because he never took me to the hospital at the time , or visit me and our child in hospital at any stage, my son was so very sick and in intensive care for one week and I couldn’t even breast feed him , he was in a humidity crib with needles all over him and a little headbox for him to Breath , He never cried when he was Born, so The doctors had to resuscitating him about 45 minutes later I was allowed to see him my beautiful little son, my sister was the one to take me to the hospital and stand by me all the time, how very grateful I am to her even today, two weeks later my husband shows up at the hospital to take me and our child home when we got home I wanted to settle our little one down but when I went into our bedroom I found the bedroom and mess he had a female companions in our bed’ and never cleaned up after him self everything was left on the side table is this for me to see , I was devastated and didn’t know what to do or what to expect this as I was very naive at the time I stayed married to him this for the next 14 years’s silly me because he began to verbally abuse me every single day I lived with this, he was so controlling he took away my friends he took my money off me he wanted to have all control over me and he did because I didn’t know any better, then in 2004 I finally found the courage to kick him out of our home, it was very difficult for me as I never knew how to be independent for myself and my child but I wanted to be a good mother so I tried so very hard I ended up divorcing him and having many hours of counselling after that I’m finally on my feet and doing well as I was always taught that when you get married you’re married for life I truly believe but that’s not so true these days ,


Posted by kayc.64, 17th February 2014


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  • You are a brave person . It means you were married to a controlling and sick person which you never knew about ( how could you anyway ) and glad you got out when you felt ready . It is sad people don’t change at least for the sake of their children .

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  • What a horrendous story! You suffered so much. He was worse then Claytons husband, he was a pig, and that’s being horrible to the pig. Happy you’ve moved on and are recovering

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  • Oh wow so glad you got out of that what a cruel man

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  • great story to read

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  • Good on you for finding the courage to stand strong.


    • i agree. it is not easy to make that choice but you are very strong. some people just give up

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  • I’m sorry to hear that you went through all that and its really good that you finally kicked him out and i hope your doing good

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  • hope things are looking much better for you now

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  • its great to see you had family to stand by you though your tough times

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  • you are a stroing woman ,,,,,,,,

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  • Youre an inspiration and have shown what a wonderful and strong woman and mother you are. Wishing you and your son lots of luck for the future

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  • Congratulations for getting out u and ur son deserve better . I hope u and ur son have a happy and healthy life with out him controlling u. x x x

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  • Congratulations to you for finally having the courage to stand up for yourself and your child. I hope your life is much happier now and that you continue to live life to the full. I’m glad that you do not seem to blame yourself for your ex husband’s terrible behaviour.

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  • great to hear you had the courage, i never think i could do it. thankfully i have a great hubby. but than i think its your present condition that makes you what you Are

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  • Hope you are going great now. Gud luck for future.

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  • thank you so very much for your kind and wonderful words i much appreciate your, your comments, although I’ve got to say it made me feel very emotional but in a good way , I want to share my story because I knew there are so many women out there going through the same thing or even worse than what I did I would like to show my support for them as well, god bless

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