I don’t think your sister is really happy or she would tell you all the things she does. If she is staying with her boyfriend for the sake of their baby that may be a big mistake if the atmosphere is not good in the home. Does she take his phone or him take hers? Does your sister tell her boyfriend what you say.., have you had a lot to say to him…..or has he got a guilty consciense???

Its understandable because you love your sister and you don’t want to see her hurt. I think being there for her now is good enough until she knows when enough is enough . Whoever said love can be blind is very true and perhaps for now she just needs some security and maybe suggest to her if she is willing to see a counsellor if you think she needs it emotionally . She is very blessed to have a sister like you .

My sister had a similar boyfriend, eventually all sh** hit the fan when it was discover what sort of things he was getting up to. If and when they break up, make sure your sister has all her i’s dotted and t’s crossed when it comes to custody arrangements. It has taken my sister 3 years, a lot of money and heartbreak but she finally has her kids back and they can longer be used in ‘his’ game.

great to read

Make sure that you keep up contact with your sister so she does have someone to turn to when she needs. If the boyfriend tries to cut off all ties to her friends it will isolate her and if things get worse she will have no one for support.

I can well understand why you would hate him. He sounds like he has his own interests at heart first and fore mostly. Your sister will more than likely come to a point where she cannot physically be in the house any longer, and for you to be there to welcome her with open arms will be amazing for her. I have had some experience with this sort of thing. Wonder what’s going through the guys parents heads to let him send his bills to their house. He sounds like a man child to me – sorry to be blunt.

How difficult it must be for you to watch your sister go through that. I hope that she finds the strength to leave as it sounds like that would be the safest thing for her to do

The term ‘broken’ home always makes me sad. There is no such thing as a broken home. Homes and families are all different in so many ways. The most important thing regardless of the make up of the family is love and respect. Unfortunately; your sister has chosen this man as her partner and all you can do is stress to your sister what a good relationship ‘looks like’.

doesn’t sound like a good relationship. there needs to be love, respect and both parties to be happy! can you speak to a councellor? having my own issues, I wish things would improve. men are hard to change.

I think i would rather my baby grow up in a broken home with one loving parent than in a home where the parents dont get on and argue or the atmosphere is horrible.
I think you just need to be there for your sister and just hope that she sees through him soon enough and be there for her when it happens.
good luck i really hope everything turns out ok for your sister.

A broken home can be much happier & healthier – if the parents make it so! I came from a broken home, and I was quite happy growing up.

The situation your sister child has, is much more damaging that being a part of a broken home! For 3 years he has done this yes? Well, he won’t change.. She needs to get out before it is too late.

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  • • Newmum21 replied
    • 22 Feb 2015 , 7:40 am

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  Thank you for your comments. I agree that a happy broken home is better than an unhappy intact home, it’s just my sister didn’t want her son to miss out on any important father & son moments. I wish she would leave him too, but then I also know that he would make it really hard for her to leave.

A happy broken home is better than an unhappy intact one.

So sorry to read this story. He does not sound trustworthy at all.
It is hard to leave but sometimes a broken home is not so bad. It can actually be better if it is not a good environment to live in. Im guessing that she is very unhappy as well.

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  • • Newmum21 replied
    • 22 Feb 2015 , 7:44 am

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  Thank you for your comments. You are 100% correct that he can’t be trusted!! I wouldn’t trust him as far as I could throw him! My sister is very unhappy but she is getting to the stage where she doesn’t care anymore and she just lets him get away with everything he does because she can’t be bothered fighting with him.