I’m a mum of 2 & I work 5-6 days a week 3pm until 12pm my children go to family daycare whilst I work! I have a partner but basically I do everything! I’m so tired and I’ve been run down in managing to make this work! My partner doesn’t seem to help much unless he’s asked or begged, I pay for everything, and I’m the only one that seems to care about doing family stuff. My house isn’t always clean sometimes it’s quite messy but what am I suppose to do raising 2 kids, keeping a household and working! I just feel he isn’t there for us, and over time I’ve fallen out of love with him because he calls me lazy and says I do nothing, please tell me if I’m wrong for feeling lost

Posted by taz_za87, 31st July 2013

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  • I’m so sorry you get called lazy and get taken for granted. I know how awful it is to be put down while you’re doing everything you can. Maybe try therapy, have a 3rd person there to put things into perspective. Maybe some time apart to show your partner what he’ll lose if he keeps it up? Best of luck to you. You deserve to be happy and appreciated and loved.


  • It sounds like you need to do some soul searching and decide what is best for you and your children. Don’t feel bad for wanting to be happy, if you’re not happy your children can see that. I hope you have someone you can talk to and if you don’t maybe you should find someone, even a free counseling service like lifeline.


  • great

    • Did you even read this?

      • Reading your story,you work long and late hours so how are you lazy? You need a partner who will love and support you.


  • Doesn’t sound like his lifting his weight at all.


  • A panter is that someone that shares the work load. It’s time you sat down and told him how you feel


  • I think your partner too selfish. He should help you for housework as he can. Hope everyhing will be okay as a happy family :)


  • this man is taking advantage of you .. i think u should say something


  • I understand why you have lost that love for him. He’s treating you like a slave :( relationships are about both people working together to make a life & to work to make sure your partner is happy & clearly he’s not doing that. You & your kids deserve better, he needs to understand how you feel & step up


  • You need to go on strike, Maybe then he will realise just how much you do!


  • You aren’t wrong to feel that way. He is being selfish and rude. I reminded my husband early on that we were now a family and for both of us our responsibilities had changed and we needed to understand and appreciate the difficulties each was experiencing. Thankfully he listened. Perhaps your partner could listen and adjust and then you might fall for him all over again. (Don’t forget your tiredness and stress makes you feel down about everything.) But if he doesn’t listen or want to help, then cut him loose. If he can’t be a part of the solution then you don’t need him adding to your problems. Either way I wish you all the best and I’m sending you all the positive wishes I can.


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