I think you are being a bit unfair. At least she is making an effort.

If you feel comfortable maybe get her to take your child to the park?

at least shes making an effort

lol, I feel your pain. I always get the ‘she’ll help you out dear” – its more frustrating then actual help

I actually miss mine. We had a somewhat rocky start, until I pointed out I was not a golddigger as there was not any gold to dig! We then got along very well. She passed away a few years ago now, so never got to met our little girl.

You poor thing. I THINK I get on with my mother in law, I say think because she lives in another country and the last time we saw her was nearly 6 years ago and that was only for a few days. I also only see my mum every 3 years she is also in the other country, but hubby gets on with her like a house on fire, I’m sure he thinks she’s his mum.

That doesn’t sound like she’s helping too much. Maybe you are being far too polite. Think- good- she’s coming. Make that your day to get some errands done in town, fold washing, vacuum and do other things. The house shouldn’t be perfect when she arrives. I would also make a bit of extra dinner one night and freeze it for the day she comes, then you can just heat it up and save you making something as well. Also, if a mess is being made, afterwards, you can say happily, OK, it’s clean up time now- and allocate some jobs to your daughter and MIL as you begin to tidy up. I used to be JUST like you, when my MIL was coming I would obsessively clean the house and fear her judgement as she is very judge-y. But over the years I just learned, she’s not bloody perfect either. I noticed things about her before I never did- the dust on her shelves, things looking neat on the surface but really in need of a damn good sorting out. Once in a while, maybe she could be dropped off at Granny’s house too rather than just at your house.

I get along really well with my mother in law, so I look forward to her coming for a visit. But if it’s getting you down why don’t you suggest that on Thursday’s you go out together somewhere and take the kids? Maybe to a park etc so you both get out of the house? Good luck!

sorry,my mother in law is gorgeous we get on really well.