Lack of Grandparents

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Growing up, some of my fondest memories were visiting my Grandparents, going to lunch/dinner, Xmas or Easter celebrations and having sleep overs.
However I have a very very strained relationship with my mother, my father is in another state and although over the years I have travelled to visit him a couple of times, he never seems to interested in maintaining contact for long after I return. My husband’s mum is reasonably close but she works 6 days a week, and his father is remarried and has never had too much time for his kids in the 8 years I have been with my husband.. Infact I think I’ve probably met him maybe 5 times in those 8 years, the last time was our wedding 2 years ago..
So now that we are expecting our 1st bubs, in only 4 weeks time, it’s started to really sadden me that my child won’t have the opportunity to experience the wonders of having grandparents around.. My husband has 4 brothers & a sister that we keep in contact with frequently, but as far as my side of the family goes, after the last falling out with my mother (without going into detail lets just say I don’t think we will be in any rush to rectify things, I had previously forgiven her for some pretty nasty words & actions after not speaking to her for 3 years, only to have her pretty much do the exact same things as soon as I put my marriage & future before trying to keep her happy) she doesn’t allow my 3 younger brothers to contact me, and my Older brother & my only sister lives in QLD..
I wonder if i’ll be as worried when bubba arrives.. Sometimes, life just isn’t fair..

Posted anonymously, 15th October 2014

6 Comments

- - june11, SA said
  - 10 Apr 2016
    9:30 pm
It is sad that some parents/grandparents think that everything revolves around them and they expect everybody to be at their “convenience” all the time. Sounds as though there has been some emotional blackmail…….I am sure the baby’s Aunties and Uncles will help to fill the gap. I know it’s not the same but hopefully they will all make the effort to spend plenty of quality time with all of you. It seems some Aunties / Great Aunties make great babysitters too. I count my blessings in that respect.

- - Klsmith91, SA said
  - 03 Jul 2015
    12:18 am
Grandparents are nice but if it’s causing you stress the kids can cope without them! You and your partner can provide all you’re kids need x

- - mom113055, SA said
  - 24 Apr 2015
    2:14 pm
i like reading these stories it s fun
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- - Kelly, SA said
  - 19 Oct 2014
    4:01 pm
I never really knew my grandparents so never really had the things you talk about.
I have 4 children 18,15,14 and 4 my mother passed away nearly 6 years ago now so my youngest never got to meet her.
I also moved from the UK to Adelaide so left all my family behind my dad and step mum do visit every year so the kids do get to see them, but i understand were your coming from.

- - mom63821, SA said
  - 15 Oct 2014
    12:21 pm
It is true those memories are special with Grandparents, and sometimes a new baby reinforces how special life is and things may change. Even if they don’t come into your life more, your little one will have all the love and support from its Mum and Dad, and I bet you have lovely friends also. Good Luck with your new little one….