I have a wonderful husband of 5 years, an amazing 3 year old son and a gorgeous little 1 year old princess and at times feel like I am the luckiest person alive that I have an amazing family but there are moments that creep in that make me believe my husband could not love me with all this extra weight and stretch marks, etc and I can just feel really down about myself (I’m not doing enough as a mother and wife, but can’t give myself anything else that could fix this. I don’t ever really want to leave the house sometimes even to go to the mail box let alone work.
But then there are days like today where I felt like the luckiest women alive and felt really positive and had a great day and was proud of myself for the 20 kilos I have lost since having my daughter
I’m at a loss as to what is wrong, I am taking various vitamins to try to boost me back up but most days this does not happen

Posted anonymously, 7th January 2015

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  • Maybe just have a chat with your gp everyone has good and bad days


  • i ike these stories


  • It sounds like you are indeed one lucky lady to have hubby and children. Most people have their down days. I do too my figure is not what it used to be and I too sometimes feel really down about it. But I would suggestion that you speak to your GP about it as you could be deficient in something. Vitamin D deficiency is very common but could be other things as well and it is best getting it checked out. All the best


  • Everyone has bad days, but if this is happening a lot you should talk to your GP.


  • Sometimes there are normal ups and downs and mummy guilts but if you are feeling like you can’t leave the house you need to see your GP. You may have PND. Trust me, you will feel so much better once you see someone. Best wishes.


  • I would also suggest a visit to the GP. Sound like your moods and hormones are on a roller coaster. Please speak up and get all off your chest and express all your feelings of sadness to the doctor. Help is at hand. Love and gentle hugs are being sent to you.


  • Sounds like how I feel. :( I don’t know if it’s normal but have a talk to your doctor and see what he thinks. Mine diagnosed me with PND.


  • I suggest you talk with your husband about how you are feeling.


  • this could be the normal mummy/partner guilts. it also could be something more if you have a lot of really high feelings and then really low feelings. you could talk to a doctor or counselor. don’t be too hard on yourself though, mumma


  • Do you have a great friend to off load to (other than husband) I find when I am feel a bit sad bout my life a great friend helps lift me up again

    • Yes but I don’t like to burden others do not always wanting to share

      • If they are a real friend it would never be a burden to them mate. xo

      • Yes, I sometimes feel the same as you – not wanting to do what I think is burdening my friends with my worries, but I think that may be where a visit to a GP and or referral to someone who you can pour all of these feelings out to may help. People are so different- some feel happier confiding in a friend, whereas others feel more comfortable letting it all gush out to a realitive stranger like a psychologist or a counsellor or a GP. Sometimes it can be like unravelling a ball of string that you didn’t know existed. Wishing you all the best of luck and don’t be afraid to jump on here – there is always kind ears and someone going through something similar to chat to :) xxx


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