I don’t really have any advice as I have not experienced what you are. I know babies that have been born from a donor egg and it was a miracle after many years of devastating loss. But both you and your husband need to be comfortable with your decision.

just so good

I always say, it’s your Dna but not your child.
I want to donate my eggs later in life, they were the words that someone told me that changed my ,I don’t.
I was the same as your hubby!

wonderful

My husband and I have 3 frozen embryos and its always on my mind as to what to do with any that may remain. Ideally I’d like a 2nd child so if we are successful with our transfer then we will be faced with the same discussions. It is a very hard decision, especially when both parties are thinking polar opposite. At this stage I’m thinking donating to science because like you I know that without medical research my son would never have been in my life. Emotionally I’m not sure that I would be ok knowing that my son may have other siblings that he will never meet. My preference would be to donate eggs rather than embryos but I guess time will tell. I hope you and your husband can find a happy medium with what is a difficult decision

You husband has to see the positive side of things about the gift of life and giving uncondiontally it isn’t about him and his kids running around … He won’t even know who they are …. The sooner you do it the better.

to be able to give another couple a chance at a family would be such an uplifting thing to do, as would donating them to science in hope for finding more solutions. I would not want to go against my partners wishes though, as it may cause further issues

but i do hope you will eventually find the answer you are looking for

i agree on the comment below

hmm.. I might not be the right person to be giving insights on this

If you have finished having your family, throught the long hard process of IVF, you know the pain and heartbreak you both went through to get there. What if you could ease someone else’s pain by helping them to have a family too?