I have 2 beautiful boys and another due in 4 weeks, I’m finding it hard to come to terms with things that life has thrown at me. My second sons starts visitations with his real father soon who he hasn’t seen in almost a year due to violence and abuse. My eldest son i couldn’t love any more I think is getting bullied at school as his falling behind but at home does great with me his in kindy. My partner and I will be loosing some income and won’t be able to survive with the bills and possible increase in rent, and not sure if we can afford our wedding at the end of the year :( we only need to pay for the celebrant as it’s only us eleoping. I’m 24 n have no career path and really want to work but can only do this durning school hours but have no idea what is good for me as I want something long term. I feel like I can’t be happy due to all of this although it might not seem as much it keeps me up all night, sorry for the sooking lol

Posted by mom62066, 9th June 2014

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  • Sounds like you could do with some support and maybe some counselling. It can help to have someone to talk too outside of the family. Also family counselling may help too. Hope all is going ok.


  • It may help you to write down a list of things you would like to achieve and when you would like to achieve them by. Start with simple things like: In 3 weeks time I want to find something that interests me enough to study” or “On Saturday I’m going to have a ‘date’ with my son to see if I can find out what’s bothering him”
    Not only can a list like this give you some perspective and help to ‘de-clutter’, the sense of accomplishment that comes with ticking something off can be a real motivater.


  • it is a nice story


  • You do have a lot on your plate and you are still so young. Try and tackle things one at a time otherwise it can get too much and the last thing you need is it to affect your health. I hope things improve.


  • you have alot on your plate by the sounds of things on your plate at the moment and I would keep a book with dates and times and if your child tells you any thing write it down as well as if he is clean any marks you find also record all convs with the father on a mobile as this can be used in court and if he makes threats to you than take that recording to the police and if he does you can and take it back to court and let them know you are scared for his saftey and weigh him before he has the visits if it is a weekend sleep over visit and weigh him when gets home and keep a record.
    I would go to the school and speak to teacher about it and remind them that schools are suppose to have a no bulling in place.


  • That’s alot for a 24 yo to cope with. Your son will have to see his dad, is there a grandmother or other relative that can help to make sure it works out ok as he hasn’t seen him for a year. For your other son, I’d speak to his teacher and take it from there. Don’t worry to much about the money for your wedding, hopefully you’ll be able to put aside a little every week. All the best. Things will get easier.


  • I think you need to discuss your thoughts about your son being bullied with either him or go into the school and see if they have seen a difference in him or not.
    As for how your feeling maybe try talking to you partner and tell him how you feel as they say a problem shared is a problem halved.
    When i was ready to return to work i just looked through all the jobs on seek and looked at the ones that really appealed to me and just looked at what if any skills i needed.
    Good luck hope everything works out for you.


  • Have you talked to your son about the possible bullying? If he won’t talk about it, would it be worth going to speak to his teacher? With 2 1/2 children, you must be so busy, and I bet you don’t have much ” me” time. Have you thought about doing some sort of work from home? You might have to make do with work that won’t be a long-term career prospect, but will get you through the next few months or couple of years. Then when the kids are a bit older, and you have a little more time on your hands, you can think about what you enjoy doing, and could possibly make a career out of. It’s hard to think straight when you’re under pressure, especially financial pressure, and when you’re going through all sorts of hormonal changes with pregnancy. And you’re not ” sooking” … you’re expressing how you feel, and asking for advice, and that’s got to be good. You never know what someone will say that you’ll read & you’ll go “Oh yeah, that could work for me”, and before you know it, everything will work out. I’ll be thinking of you, and I hope it all turns out o.k. With all that’s happening in your life, please don’t forget to be kind to yourself. xxx


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