My daughter’s room is a mess only because she loves hoarding . Cleaning their rooms is nothing with impressing other people as you can shut the door . I don’t care about that part , but I hate food in bedrooms . I just say to the kids cleaning your room helps prevent germs so for example if you eat in your room and food drops then it will attract cockroaches and mice and she had plenty of that . They are old enough o decide .

I have the same battle as you. And I think the same, to an extent. The mess gets to a certain level and I can’t help myself, it has to be cleaned, but for my sanity…nothing else. If it’s too messy, they risk damaging their things and maybe even themselves

i like to keep their rooms tidy so that they don’t trip and hurt themselves and it is more organized to look at. i keep it organized for me as well lol. I am not crazy on the topic and they do make messes a lot so i don’t want to be nagging them all the time as they are only kids

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Everyone does need to maintain a general level of tidiness for health and well being; however it is rude for family/guests to comment. A house is a home and not a showpiece!

My kids are chalk and cheese. One loves a clean room the other couldn’t care a less.

Some good news, rooms are been kept clean, since i started decluttering my abode the girls have followed in line ( maybe scared I’ll start on their rooms) hahaha. And i have put my foot down with my sister too, I’d gotten to braking point and it was well heard. So feeling good. Thanks for all your comments.

I believe that children should keep their own room tidy at the end of the day its your house and they need to respect that and keep it tidy plus it starts a good habit for when they get older and move into their own house or rent a house.

Your sister sounds a big horrid. If she is judging you for the state of your house/kids rooms then that’s just rude. I say have it how you want it. If it doesn’t bother you/your kids then don’t let your sister bother you. And stand your ground with her. Tell her not to touch your stuff without asking first.

occasionally im guilty of this – people whom arent often in my house are the ones i make them go the extra effort. But in saying this i do prefer a tidy room – it just isnt worth the time though! i make mine tidy at least once a week, maybe a complete clean every 2 – just to get rid of junk that 2 x 8 year olds seem to accumulate!

Most of us like to present the best image to others, in my head I might feel like why should I bother but my over fussy, cleaning side of my brain won’t let me off the hook. It’s your decision though.

Its your choice honey, seriously. I used to have a really bad habit of ‘apologising for the mess’ as soon as someone came over. Even when the house was spotless. But then my sis-in-law said, “Missie, we are here to spend time with you, not inspect your house”. If my house is messy, its because we are so busy having a life!

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  • • butterfly197969 replied
    • 15 Sep 2014 , 2:20 pm

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  Thank you for that but unfortunately it doesn’t matter what I say my sister will walk in and she goes straight to the girl’s rooms, I’ve told her she can leave but she thinks I’m joking. Lol. Justbthe other day she walksmin to drop my nephew off and we had a powercord across the lounge room floor as we were charging tablets over night she sweeps in and swipes the cord away and tablets go flying I arched up and said what the heck you doing. She replied with my son trips over cords. It would have been removed in 20 seconds. Sorry rant over.

We often spend more time thinking about how others view us and I agree it adds to stress and frustration. I used to feel like when my ultra (I mean over the top do it my way OCD clean) relatives used to visit that I needed to have everything perfect and it would cause me great stress before they came going around the house making sure every skirting board was dusted etc. these days they can take it or leave it.

I got to the stage where I just tell them if they want to live in a mess than keep their door shut at all times so I did not have to look at it.

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  • • butterfly197969 replied
    • 13 Sep 2014 , 11:39 am

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  Lol, I dont go upmthat end of the house which suits me fine but its my house inspector’s aka family that go for a sticky then put my children down for it.

Regular clean up ie. Saturday mornings would alleviate resentment when they are forced to clean when people are coming over. I am thankful my parents made me clean my room – I now take pride in my home as an adult and intend to pass on those good habits to my children as they grow up too. A clear room helps create a clear mind.

I make my kids do a bit of a tidy up each night – it doesn’t have to be perfect, but the rule is the floor in their room has to be clear enough to be safe if Mummy or Daddy have to come in at night. And on Sunday night we do a big pickup throughout the house so I can vacuum on Monday morning. The kids understand there’s a purpose to that, and I’ve come to accept that some mess is okay if the kids are happy and it’s clean at base.