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My husband has been a manager in a large retail company for years. He is often not home for dinner , works 12 hour days etc. His role has changed and he needs to be tougher on staff and so many other things that go against who he I’d. It has caused him a great amount of stress.
So we sat down and decided the best thing for all of us is if he takes a step down from his role. Sure money will be tight but money doesn’t buy happiness.


Posted by mum4107, 3rd July 2015


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  • Yes that is such a big decision, but definitely good on you for putting you first!

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  • Good on you for sitting down and talking about it and coming to a decision together. So many times the male takes it upon himself to make lots of money but stress is such a harmful thing. Good on you and hope it all goes well.

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  • Im not sure if this is the best decision but its your call no matter what others think. There are alot of family members regionally that work long hours, work interstate away from family, and they cope. Weighing up the pros and cons are a great way to decide. If your partners job is not on the line, you can afford to survive, no health problems then go for it.

    The more money people get the more they spend. Im not one that has high expectations. Material is not everything. As long as yous got love, food and a roof over your head and can pay your bills comfortably. Remember how much the tax man takes. The more yous earn the more tax you pay. Sometimes a greater return though. Is there any chance you could work a couple of hours to help out too

    Goodluck


    • I’m sure people do cope with long hours and distance from families but that’s not our only concern. It’s the whole package of the position he is currently inClouding being called out in the middle of the night when alarms go off. Never having two consecutive days off in a row and so much more

      I do work and have just increased my hours.
      we are looking forward to having more time as a family.
      Thank you :)

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  • This is very true. Money isn’t everything and certainly can’t buy you happiness. Its amazing what we can learn to do on a smaller budget and the ways that we learn to cope with having a smaller income when we need to :-). I wish you all the best with it.

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  • Wow that is such a big decision but good on you for putting happiness first. In a way I wish I could do that.

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  • I agree and sounds like you are making the right decision. Sanity and happiness is much more important than money

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  • so true, good luck to you xx

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  • Well we have an update, he is being moved (at his request) to a store closer to home. That is also going to help money wise. He is a happier man already.
    Definitely no regrets. Thank you all x

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  • Yeap and sometimes the money is not worth the extra stress

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  • Smart choice – men often feel they need to be providers and miss out of so much family time and time with the children that they won’t get back

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  • Before we had kids my husband was in the situation, we sat down and decided family first. It was the best thing we ever did for his health and mental wellbeing. The only problem was for the next few years he had to remind everyone he was been paid to do the top job anymore and he was not willing to. Now 8 years later he is still with the same company and is so happy when he can walk out at the end of the day at home time and come back to the kids and have tea with them. Yes its a massive huge pay cut but nothing can replace time with the kids, We just have to go without a few items that really are not essential or needed. But i will soon be going back to work when the youngest is at school so we can have it all ( whats not really needed) we just have to wait a little longer.

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  • You are soon right. Money does not buy happiness and while we still need it, just how much do we need??? There are many things more important than $$$ and lets face it….we can’t take it with us!

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  • Well done on making a hard decision. I know from watching my husband, formally in Defence and now in upper management of a private company, that it’s not an easy job. He’s the nicest guy ever at home but at work he can be a real hard a$$. It’s not personal, it just has to be that way sometimes, if all other options have been exhausted. Not everyone can do it. I know I couldn’t!

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  • and also you know, life is short and NO-ONE has the right to criticize this decision that you made together. Be happy! Your kids will love seeing dad more! If people judge you, that’s their problem! You have put your family first and you can’t take money with you….

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  • i think you have made the right decision. money won’t buy you happiness.

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