I know a quite weird,common and touching topic.But still these realtionships the more you talk about them the more you learn had some whta different stories you comeup with. I started my journey of relations in afamily of four sisters and never ever thought of missing another realtionship which a brother. We had no brother but were always brought up like boys by our parents.Had everything in life, money, education, career , nice & healthy environment of being heard and say your opinion. Life was wonderful so far. Life a took turn when my elder sister got married and settle in a joint family of Mother in law father in law ,brother in law and siter in law. Everything was good , good & understanding between relations.So far life was smooth with no complaints. But dont know when this wind of distrust came and everything started taking a twist. Good and understanding realtions were no more, realtions in family were challengeing each other existence . it started when my sister’s mother in law got sick and she sarted having a fear of getting lost of powers and then she started knitting realtionships of distrust and spread bad words about my sister. Instead my sister was always besides her taking care of her washing all hr closes, bed ,taking her to the toilet and washing her. but dont know where the evil came in her taht she started poisoning my sisters husband ears and tellling him lies about my sister.My sister husband stated hateing my sister and joined his mum complianing about her and giving her physical threats, everthying changed all sacrifices she made for him turned back on her and she lost lost hope and started taking sleeping pills inorder to avoid what aws happening in the family. Mother in law after few months got well but still she wasnt normal with her ,and tried to pretend as if whtever she said was right about my sister and tried to separate them.But my sister kept patienece and waited for the time and slowly and steadly she got her husband trust back and he realised his mother is under a depression and she is in a habbit of making stories and from there fater he started trusting his own eyes rather realising his mums words.Today their realtionship is good ther are blessed with two kids one son & one girl.
But this entire story had a very bad impact on me when i got maried i had in my mind mother in laws are always bad and they will always create a differenec in you and your husband realtionships.I never wanted to get married in joint family but destiny played its role me and my husband had to settle in a joint family. so each time i did anything i was always conscious and but always living in a treat of getteing rejected. But i was in wrong impression mother in law was the sweetest experience i had in my life , she was caring she loving and if me and husband ever inulged into an argument she always helped us to sorted that. She always believed that relationships are made in heaven and always stck to your loved onesno matter what situations you are in , you stay strong an united you can overcome the troubles. She said Love is the only solution of realtions and live and breath it ……………….and then you have everything what you dreamt of in life. Yes altalst I thought and my words were Mums are Mums but Mother in laws are also Mums on her death bed and i gave her a big hug and said she will always stay in my heart and I love her.
Posted anonymously, 15th May 2014