Never thought the words ok Your Mum can go home tomorrow would mean so much to me as they do now.
After my Mum being in hospital for 5 weeks now than getting the news that she has not got long the words she can go home made me cry.
She will be coming home to live her days out with her family which is great and what she wants so I happy she will be happy.
We had a meeting at the hospital that we had to have with 3 different lots to get this answer and had the last one at 6:00pm last night and we got there at just after 8:00am. Once we got there after getting a phone call to come up as the doctors start at 8:00am so we were out of here for our 1hr trip in very early in the morning which it ended up it did not matter to me as I had not been to bed and could not close my eyes as than my mind would race even faster.
We got there and for the meetings which we have been told about every day for 4 days be this time to be told by a nurse I think the doctors are just meeting between them selves and there is no meeting with family ….. keep in mind my self and Daughter have not been sleeping at all so…my tones of voice changed I did not raise it but my face told her how dangerous those words she has said is getting with me. I told her every day we have been told about it as it is in her file a a meeting with family meeting with doctors and that certainly is not doctor with doctor. My Mum started to get upset and now I am still not raising me voice but my self and Husband and daughter our outward projection has changed and I did say to the nurse we know it has nothing to do with the nursing staff and it is the doctors that say what is what but did make it clear I suggest she get a doctor down to speak to us very quickly.
Now we have a doctor whom comes down and asks what do you want to know?…. and to us is a baby as my children are older … which my Mother answered I want to know what is going on meaning with the meeting…he than rubs Mum’s leg and said ok Dear I was here this morning and seen you but it seems you have fogotten so i will go over it again Dear….
You have Cancer that has now taken over most of your liver Dear along with others….now my Husband whom to some looks intimitdating has now lent forward in his chair and stayed seat and in a normal voice said do not talk down to Mum or like she is an idiot she has cancer she has not lost her mine and speak to her with some respect that she deserves. Ok all of a sudden he got the message was out from behind the curtain and off to make the meetings we had to have with all the different lots happen that opened the curtains and said ok the meeting are going to be today and he said I have told them it must be today due to the family getting intensely upset…..I said to Hubby you must have scared the poor boy.
Mum’s nurses that were allocated to her room for the day thought we were great and they kept making sure this was happening….now the nurse in charge with night shift came in with a smile and said what ever you have done there is one out there to see you they will be in to see you all in a minute.
Now to get to the end of this when had 3 meetings and the last one was the most important one they were the ones that could say yes or no….we got a big yes and he said the other meetings we had glowing reports from and he could see we had a right to be getting upset and said he not be mucking us around like we had been and we got a yes he feels if Mum wants home than that is what is going to happen….today they rang my Daughter and they are supplying the hoist and a couple of other things and if we find any thing else Mum will need they will supply or pay for it and that and Mum is coming home tomorrow and they are getting the Ambo’s to bring her home and get her in the house.
Never felt so good to hear just some simple words that mean so much.
Posted by arcticwynta, 11th June 2014