I moved to a small regional town following my divorce as it was closer to my parents and I needed their support with raising a family on my own. I volunteer once a week, am active in the community and have been trying to build friendships for the last two years without success. I am beginning to feel very lonely and isolated and the people around my age group don’t seem interested in widening their friendship base. I am nice, friendly and interested in others and have good kids most of the time, but I’m beginning to feel that something must be wrong with me. How can it be this hard to make new close friendships. It seems everyone who is has a partner isn’t interested in developing female friendships and those who already have their cliques don’t want to expand. I am 42 and have a good relationship with my parents and have met some friends through them, but would really like people around my own age group to go and do fun things with. Am I looking at it all wrong? I love my kids but do want some grownup time to just chat and have a coffee to not lose myself.

Posted anonymously, 17th October 2014

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  • I moved to a small town now and found it quite difficult to make new friends as they are very clique and it took time. I’ve been there for 8 years now and in the last couple of years have started to make some really good friends.


  • Making friends is so hard. I know from personal experience and if i figure it out I’llet you know


  • Maybe look at joining clubs or groups than you’re interested in? You get to enjoy the activities you like and meet new people, even if they may be a little but older or younger than you :-)


  • I honestly think as we get older it gets harder and harder to make new friends.
    I moved from the UK to Adelaide 8 years ago now and my friends circle is about 15 in total and only 1 of them i could call a good friend but not best friend.
    I wish i could give you and i a magic wand and make it easier.


  • It does tend to be a bit harder when you become separated and move and people already have established friendship groups. I’ve experienced this myself. The only advice I can give you is keep at it because I did and you eventually meet some true gems of people.


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