my 4 year old son had a very difficult time adjusting to preschool at the beginning of the year, we have tried everything: staying with him for an hour, leaving him straight after the drop off, promising exciting treat, favourite show, nothing worked until i found a solution a surprise toy after school if he is good. it worked, he started enjoying himself, found some friends etc. but he became more demanding and more specific about the toys he wanted and it became very expensive. we stared off with a $1 car and now he wants an action figures like batman, spiderman etc they are not cheap, so i am trying to stop rewards all together since he is fine at school now. but we created a monster, not only he is back to his usual tricks every morning before school, he became abusive, he screams, hits, stomps. i know i have to be strong after all i created this problem, but it’s really upsetting it’s like he is addicted and going cold turkey on toys. i never ever had such problem with my girls, is it a boy thing?

Posted by delta30, 27th August 2013

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  • wow yeah don’t beat your self up, kinds are manipulative. show them whos the boss. his other friends don’t act like that. I’m sure he will get over this phase until he finds another one…
    good luck!


  • I’m always careful in what I reward.


  • Hope my boy easy to adjusting his preschool next year.


  • its not just a boy thing, maybe reward the good behaviour with a sticker chart and he has to earn a certain amount to receive the toy and gradually increase the amount of stickers needed to earn the reward. and could you substitute the toy for a free reward like a playdate with a friend or a trip to the park on the way home from school. other PPP coarse is great, it helps corrective behaviour, we did the coarse because our son and his a different child now lol.


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