Positive negative - Real Mum story on MoM

A friend of mine has been trying to lose weight.(I gave up years ago!)

She has been using a personal trainer, and dieting hard, and really truly trying.

She is looking great in my opinion, but I noticed something. Another friend saw her for the first time in ages, and said “the diet is working well so far, keep it up!”

Now on the surface, this seems to be a fairly postive thing to say, but when you think about it, what she has just said is “You are not good enough yet, keep trying”.

I started to notice just how often we are told by our friends, family and the media to keep trying we are not there yet.

I wonder will any of us ever get to that mythical there, or should we start being happy with what we have….

Posted by katelt, 17th September 2013

9 Comments

- - mom66977 said
  - 28 Jul 2015
    9:13 pm
yay ! dont ever give up sweetie

- - mom94125 said
  - 20 Jun 2015
    1:06 pm
i won’t comment on people. that is just rude and not your business

- - joanne said
  - 04 May 2015
    12:02 pm
weight is a very soft spot with women

- - mom57522 said
  - 07 Jan 2015
    7:14 pm
I would have just taken the comment at face value.

- - mom93821 said
  - 03 Jan 2015
    4:09 pm
People should not comment on weight! It is a personal issue and I would never ever comment on a persons weight.

- - bridgwll said
  - 11 Mar 2014
    10:39 am
If you want to turn a positive into a negative well then you wont get any where in life …. you have thought and sat on this one comment too long. take it as it has been said and no other way.

- - 5teffielou said
  - 19 Sep 2013
    1:42 pm
It’s so frustrating when loosing weight to hear “your doing well”. What if I’m done and happy? It totally undermines the persons feelings. I think “great work!” Is more than sufficient.

- - omgjag31 said
  - 18 Sep 2013
    6:59 am
I never saw it that way, but you are right. I lost 17kg before I fell with my last and everyone said at the end I had lost enough weight. I am jut staring gain as I have put that weight on since bub, and people do say you are getting there. I guess thy dont realise what they are saying

- - sanjipanj said
  - 17 Sep 2013
    3:29 pm
Reading between the lines. I agree with you. I have recently lost a lot of weight yet people say wow you look great but lose no more, I read between the lines. Good on your friend for making a change in the right direction for her